The loop I cause my wife to have no buffer for our kids.
I don't share 50% of the mental load of kids.
I do what I can in my comfort zone, this puts added pressure on wife.
I accept acknowledge this.
I don't accept her swearing at me and kids and she knows she shouldn't.
If i speak up after trying to give her yeah things are hard for you, and eventually i'm this isnt cool, yes i know why you do it, yes i acknowldge you know you shouldnt do this.
I don't know how to get her to stop,
especially arguing in front of kids and speaking to me like crap.
Yes I know she's tired fatigued triggered by our son being grumpy and ruining her walk.
Yes I know the demands on her of me and son wear on her.
But i feel im allowing me and kids to be abused, yes I understand the justification that me and kids are causing it.
Yes i understand that its not fair on her.
Yes me forgetting things puts pressure on her.
What the heck do i do.
Please give me some idea as im stuck solving this issue.
I get she's hurt