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Near Meltdown While Shopping.

Plastic

I did the Sainsburys vulnerable shopping hour this morning.     

Had to be up at 4am to stabilise my body because of the other health problems - but woke up at 3am instead.   Disappointed. 

Took all my pills and waited while my body does its normal routine - it makes me feel really ill and I need 3 hours to get ready.

Got to the shop for 0700 and was 5th in line - but I'm normally with my daughter and unfortunately, she was unavailable today.  

I got questioned but the Hi-Viz man whether I should be there or not and again by the guy on the door so I had to show them my disability badge, my autism card and the other notification cards and my steroid warning card - so that left me stressed.

Got into the shop and the self-scan system was not working - This is a big problem - I have CFS so I only have a limited amount of energy - I'd been up for 5 hours now including an hour of standing outside the shop and the broken self-scan means I will have to queue again for ages at the checkouts..     I should have walked away.

Stupidly, I carried on - and found I'd forgotten my glasses so I couldn't read the shopping list or the labels on the products.- I should have walked away.

Stupidly, I carried on - but I was getting more stressed by the time-crunch to avoid the checkout queues and the inability to find what I was supposed to get - like a really bad treasure hunt with only rubbish prizes.    I should have walked away.

I got about 2/3 of the list but was getting more and more stressed and tearful - I was getting panicky and wobbly.   It's the closest I've ever come to a full public meltdown in a shop.

I'd had enough - I needed to escape - luckily, I got to a free checkout and was out of there in a couple of minutes.     The checkout lady asked me if I was ok (I obviously wasn't) but I was so messed up that I couldn't answer except to apologise to her for making her concerned.

I've been home for over 2 hours but I'm still shaking and tearful - and I'm soooo tired but too agitated to relax and sleep.  Disappointed

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  • Best Wishes from Me to "Plastic" - I respect You a lot and so I chance a Post here, helpful or obvious or not... Again at Anthony's suggestion, I say I agree. Yet regarding shopping in general, the obvious advice would be to do it online, but, well...

    There is a thing which, even during this restriction-business, *might* still apply: especially since You mention "Sainsburys", and that is to ask for a "Shopping Assistant". They, now, might have to stand 2-Metres away but should still be available. Ask for one as soon as You are close enough to speak to a member of staff (sometimes the assistant will be the Trolley-person, yet they *are* just as capable and sympathetic.).

    ...Even before now, asking and waiting for someone to become available/free to help, might take a while (I once had to wait about 20 minutes a few Years ago), but it is useful for a helping hand and sometimes a sympathetic ear to talk to.

    If anyone is reading this yet not tried it before, I suggest first trying it when not feeling so bad and only needing a few things or simple things --- like a "test run" to see what having a "Shopping Assistant" is like. It should be no shame to admit to needing help or to have to sit for a time... something like that.

    Anyway, to Mr.Plastic, the "walking away" is indeed what I Myself often do; but I have the kind of temperament where if I am Ill then I cannot even shop in the first place, yet when I can I will not walk away but *will run away very scared and confused and angry*... or just stand stock still in place like a frightened Deer/Cat. To close this post, it is long enough & I do not know if it is useful... but here it is anyway. Glad Tidings Atchya.

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  • Best Wishes from Me to "Plastic" - I respect You a lot and so I chance a Post here, helpful or obvious or not... Again at Anthony's suggestion, I say I agree. Yet regarding shopping in general, the obvious advice would be to do it online, but, well...

    There is a thing which, even during this restriction-business, *might* still apply: especially since You mention "Sainsburys", and that is to ask for a "Shopping Assistant". They, now, might have to stand 2-Metres away but should still be available. Ask for one as soon as You are close enough to speak to a member of staff (sometimes the assistant will be the Trolley-person, yet they *are* just as capable and sympathetic.).

    ...Even before now, asking and waiting for someone to become available/free to help, might take a while (I once had to wait about 20 minutes a few Years ago), but it is useful for a helping hand and sometimes a sympathetic ear to talk to.

    If anyone is reading this yet not tried it before, I suggest first trying it when not feeling so bad and only needing a few things or simple things --- like a "test run" to see what having a "Shopping Assistant" is like. It should be no shame to admit to needing help or to have to sit for a time... something like that.

    Anyway, to Mr.Plastic, the "walking away" is indeed what I Myself often do; but I have the kind of temperament where if I am Ill then I cannot even shop in the first place, yet when I can I will not walk away but *will run away very scared and confused and angry*... or just stand stock still in place like a frightened Deer/Cat. To close this post, it is long enough & I do not know if it is useful... but here it is anyway. Glad Tidings Atchya.

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