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Should I actually be in a relationship!

The Riddler

Recently Ive been finding it more and more difficult to live with my partner. I don’t know if lockdown is making it worse, but I just don’t enjoy them being around. I feel like an outsider in my own home and I’m under constant pressure to do things and go to places I don’t want to (pre Covid19 obviously). It’s made more difficult because we have a child, but to be honest she is noisy and drives me mad. I really envy Chris Packham, I just want to live on my own in the woods! Really not sure what to do.

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  • Have you explained all this to your partner?      How old is your daughter?     Kids become more interactive and more interesting as they get older - and you can go places to enjoy days out with them.      

    I totally appreciate your wish to run away and abandon all responsibility - it's normal - everyone has those thoughts when things are not perfect.

    You might also have fallen into the trap of being poor at conversations so accidentally agreeing with your partner's wishes and getting railroaded  into a bad place.      Odds are your partner doesn't mean to make you feel this way, but feels you have agreed with everything that's going on and doesn't know you feel this way.

    Are you able to write everything down for them?    It sounds strange but e-mail conversation about stuff allows you to think clearly before replying.    The time delay allows you to keep your brain from overloading in the heat of the exchange.

    Good luck.

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  • Have you explained all this to your partner?      How old is your daughter?     Kids become more interactive and more interesting as they get older - and you can go places to enjoy days out with them.      

    I totally appreciate your wish to run away and abandon all responsibility - it's normal - everyone has those thoughts when things are not perfect.

    You might also have fallen into the trap of being poor at conversations so accidentally agreeing with your partner's wishes and getting railroaded  into a bad place.      Odds are your partner doesn't mean to make you feel this way, but feels you have agreed with everything that's going on and doesn't know you feel this way.

    Are you able to write everything down for them?    It sounds strange but e-mail conversation about stuff allows you to think clearly before replying.    The time delay allows you to keep your brain from overloading in the heat of the exchange.

    Good luck.

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