- Hi, I'm new and wondered if anyone could help. I'm 43 and have strong suspicions I have undiagnosed Asbergers. After recent relationship problems I read up on Asbergers and, like many people the description seemed to describe my life from my earliest memories until the present day. As I'm undiagnosed, and possibly even dont have asbergers I'm very confused as to manage emotions. I'm waiting for a GP call to discuss a referral but my wife is struggling to understand it. She wants to speak to a friend about it which I would be happy with, however the friend is the wife of a good friend of mine! I just dont feel ready to share how I'm feeling and disclose very confidential info about me.....I've only just come to terms with what I suspect in the last 5 days! Is this bad of me to limit who my wife talks to about me? Any guidance would be most appreciated.