Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all,
I am asking you adults with ASD or partners of ASD people because you are the most knowledgeable and experienced!!
I desperately need good book recommendations for how to thrive in a relationship with an ASD partner, specifically Aspergers. I am a neurotypical female and I’m struggling I’m my NT/AS marriage. My husband is loyal and lovely, kind and intelligent but we have a lot of problems. Please send me some book titles and authors that may have helped you!! Especially about partners with Aspergers. Thank you!
My partner has undiagnosed Aspergers, and I’m having a hard time being understanding loving and patient. I often feel criticized and like I’m walking on eggshells all the time, I never know when he will get upset with me for doing something that isn't within his routine and expectations. It makes me feel stuck and controlled. I want to be able to make compromises and have teamwork in our relationship - eg money choices, social life, weekly schedule. But instead I feel like I always do what he wants to avoid him getting moody and upset and withdrawing from me for hours at a time, usually until I agree to do things his way.
I greatly want to understand him and improve our relationship and communication. Cheers!
It's great that you're seeking advice and resources to navigate your relationship. Living with a partner who has ASD can indeed present unique challenges, and it's commendable that you're looking for ways to understand and support each other better. While I don't have specific book recommendations off the top of my head, you might find it helpful to check out the [link removed by moderator] feature, which can lead you to valuable insights from books on this topic. Remember, communication and empathy are key in any relationship, and seeking guidance from those who have faced similar situations can be a wonderful step forward.