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Newly Diagnosed 33 year old adult - finding it hard to process. Any suggestions?

NAS67008

Hi 

i have just been diagnosed with ASD at 33 years of age. I am a teacher and a father of 3. I don't know how to feel about it or what I need to do next. Do i tell people do i not? I would love some advise please. Thanks!

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  • Hi

    I felt the urge to tell  people after I was diagnosed, because of the revelation to me and how different I felt. However, I was cautious about it for the reasons others raise.  In the end I decided to wait 3 months and see if I still wanted to tell people after the euphoria had died down.

    As of now it's more than a year now and I have only told a handful of people, and I'm quite glad I didn't tell more because you can't un-tell people.  However, each situation is rather different and I'm not in your line of work. 

    I haven't told my family or my employer.  I have told 2 colleagues that I get on with, my partner and finally my partner's best friend (so that my partner could vent about me if needed). One of the colleagues was a regret.  That stopped me telling any more.  When I told them I was autistic, they proceeded to list every weirdo they knew , followed by "probably autistic", as if I was now in the weirdo club now. 

    I also think it's really cool that you are an autistic teacher :-) I wish I'd had one - I might have got on better at school. 

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  • Hi

    I felt the urge to tell  people after I was diagnosed, because of the revelation to me and how different I felt. However, I was cautious about it for the reasons others raise.  In the end I decided to wait 3 months and see if I still wanted to tell people after the euphoria had died down.

    As of now it's more than a year now and I have only told a handful of people, and I'm quite glad I didn't tell more because you can't un-tell people.  However, each situation is rather different and I'm not in your line of work. 

    I haven't told my family or my employer.  I have told 2 colleagues that I get on with, my partner and finally my partner's best friend (so that my partner could vent about me if needed). One of the colleagues was a regret.  That stopped me telling any more.  When I told them I was autistic, they proceeded to list every weirdo they knew , followed by "probably autistic", as if I was now in the weirdo club now. 

    I also think it's really cool that you are an autistic teacher :-) I wish I'd had one - I might have got on better at school. 

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