Newly Diagnosed 33 year old adult - finding it hard to process. Any suggestions?

I personally wouldn't unless you need to.

I was diagnosed last year and told my employer, as I was being "told" to transfer to another group on a accusation from a manager on something I was supposed to have said 18 months ago. As he couldn't back up after being confronted by my Union Rep - it was all dropped. So  I was allowed to carry on with my current job as before :) But I'm not sure whether I would've told my employer,  if I hadn't needed to.

That said they have made work place adjustments eg communicate via chat/email and keep meetings short or not invite me. Also they have to give me clear written instructions. I use noise cancelling headphones all the time, as we have an open office area.

I told my family, but they don't really believe my diagnosis (My eldest son was diagnosed as a teenager and is 21 now). Even my wife says that she has known me for over 30 years and doesn't think I have Aspergers. Although she did tell the Psychologist (as part of the assessment) that I have difficulties in social situations and get easily stressed and agitated when put in awkward situations.

It must be hard being a Teacher have to socially interact with people all the time?

Going forward, if you are suffering work place problems, to make your diagnosis known to your head. 

And finally, you could try therapy (CBT) or meditation if you suffer from stress and anxiety caused by your Autusm...

I personally wouldn't unless you need to.

I was diagnosed last year and told my employer, as I was being "told" to transfer to another group on a accusation from a manager on something I was supposed to have said 18 months ago. As he couldn't back up after being confronted by my Union Rep - it was all dropped. So  I was allowed to carry on with my current job as before :) But I'm not sure whether I would've told my employer,  if I hadn't needed to.

That said they have made work place adjustments eg communicate via chat/email and keep meetings short or not invite me. Also they have to give me clear written instructions. I use noise cancelling headphones all the time, as we have an open office area.

I told my family, but they don't really believe my diagnosis (My eldest son was diagnosed as a teenager and is 21 now). Even my wife says that she has known me for over 30 years and doesn't think I have Aspergers. Although she did tell the Psychologist (as part of the assessment) that I have difficulties in social situations and get easily stressed and agitated when put in awkward situations.

It must be hard being a Teacher have to socially interact with people all the time?

Going forward, if you are suffering work place problems, to make your diagnosis known to your head. 

And finally, you could try therapy (CBT) or meditation if you suffer from stress and anxiety caused by your Autusm...

Thank you John for taking the time to respond. 

Teaching and spending time with my own children is the easy bit, dealing with the adults is a lot harder. I just put on a show of what everyone wants this great teacher and family man to be. its extremely tiring. 

Me and my wife split up last year, i dont think she could take my quirks any longer. I am wondering if i need to let her know or even my children as my oldest has made passing comments about my obsessions and the way i do things sometimes. I think my 6 year old has a lot of my same traits, he is very clever, so people overlook this usually. I know how hard life has been for myself, i dont want him having to feel or deal with the same. 

Since being diagnosed a few days ago, i dont think i have felt anything. I pushed for it because i have always known how different i am, but now that i know i am unsure of how to feel or what to do.