Hello there.
I’m coming to the end of my rope here in options. At the moment, I am considering either divorce or couple counselling as my NT wife is refusing to “change her personality” or study autism in order to understand my condition as a way of keeping our relationship together. Nor does she believe that my AS is part of my personality.
I feel I’m being stigmatised as someone who is using my AS as a crutch to lean on to get sympathy and justification for my limits and behaviour. She feels she shouldn’t accommodate my AS for the sake of keeping the marriage together. It hurts more because it comes from the one I love and married, and she doesn’t feel reciprocal to my sharing this part of my life.
I don’t want to leave her or vice versa, as we love each other deeply. But after our last discussions, we are at a deadlock over when and if who leaves first.
Am I missing something grey here, or is this black and white on what I need to do next?
please help.
will
