Social Disaster

Hello Anthony,

Sorry to hear about your struggle. You say you have one friend, and that’s good. What you seem to find in life is, a true friend is someone that sees past any issues you think you may have. Try not to worry too much. Is there any groups you could maybe join in your local area? Like Roswell was saying, sometimes it’s good to be around others that share the same interests. Me personally, and I don’t know if it’s because of the lockdown? But I’ve really been thinking a lot about starting to learn how to play the piano. Thinking of buying my first keyboard. Anyway, I hope things improve for you mate. And remember you have always got the forum to chat with others 

Thanks Tel. See above in reply to Plastic for my comments on groups but you are right, Lockdown has made that even more difficult even if I was capable. I have undertaken a couple of new long term history projects which is positive but academia is often quite solitary so sadly that won’t necessarily help the social situation. 

Yeah I understand completely what you’re saying. I feel awkward in groups too. But sometimes you can be surprised, because just because you try once or twice and don’t like it, there’s a chance you might go another time, and meet people you really click with. I did it once with a community archeology dig. I felt awkward with some people, but there was this one woman that I really got on well with  plus with something practical like that, I find it takes a bit of pressure off. Because you ain’t just sitting around feeling like you need to talk. That’s just a suggestion though. I hope things get better for you mate 

I’m glad you think so... I’m a little less confident! 

Yeah, it’s a difficult one to get right. I think a few of us on here can relate to social difficulties, making friends etc... Hopefully things will change for the better for you soon 

See I’m similar only sometimes I feel I over compensate then talk too much because I become conscious of the fact I’m socially inept - so in essence I then try too hard.

I just generally feel awkward if I try to speak to someone that I don’t know well, or they try to speak to me. If I do start talking it’s usually about stuff they want to talk about, but I can only do that for so long. Sometimes I just don’t feel like speaking much at all. But I know if I do that around people, then it can come across as rude. But I don’t feel like I’m being rude, I’m just doing what I feel. Only people that know me well understand that though I think. 

See in the guy who will sit in the corner and not speak to anyone. It’s easier when people approach me I find, but as cliques already exist I often find that few make any real effort. Is that something you’ve experienced?

See in the guy who will sit in the corner and not speak to anyone. It’s easier when people approach me I find, but as cliques already exist I often find that few make any real effort. Is that something you’ve experienced?

I’m glad you think so... I’m a little less confident! 

Yeah, it’s a difficult one to get right. I think a few of us on here can relate to social difficulties, making friends etc... Hopefully things will change for the better for you soon 

See I’m similar only sometimes I feel I over compensate then talk too much because I become conscious of the fact I’m socially inept - so in essence I then try too hard.

I just generally feel awkward if I try to speak to someone that I don’t know well, or they try to speak to me. If I do start talking it’s usually about stuff they want to talk about, but I can only do that for so long. Sometimes I just don’t feel like speaking much at all. But I know if I do that around people, then it can come across as rude. But I don’t feel like I’m being rude, I’m just doing what I feel. Only people that know me well understand that though I think.