Social Disaster

I would concentrate on joining groups with a common interest of yours - like local history groups.   There will be others there with the same interests so you can talk about interesting things.    Odds are they've gravitated there because they feel the same as you so you'll all be in the same boat.       Talking about a common interest often means the subject is more important than the social graces so they are more forgiving of your mistakes.

I would concentrate on joining groups with a common interest of yours - like local history groups.   There will be others there with the same interests so you can talk about interesting things.    Odds are they've gravitated there because they feel the same as you so you'll all be in the same boat.       Talking about a common interest often means the subject is more important than the social graces so they are more forgiving of your mistakes.

See the problem I have with groups is that I am simply terrible in them - I get so anxious and either become so dominant or dead silent. I also get a bit paranoid of what people think of me and have a lot of agoraphobic tendencies - not a food mix right? I want to build confidence and join groups but it’s one of those classic vicious circles I can’t break. I lack self confidence at the best of times too as you can probably tell.