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Meltdowns

PickAChew

Mine tend to last hours. They are normally prompted by a sudden change in plans. I start crying, shaking, hyperventilating. 

I'm worried that I will drive people away with this behaviour. And at a time like this (coronavirus) the thought of being abandoned is terrifying.

How do you guys PREVENT meltdowns?

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  • I just go with it.  Generally if im going to melt, I walk away from the situation, its the only avoidance tactic.  In the past I've had rage meltdowns, mainly years back when I used to go out with friends and aminly if we were brawling.  At the time, kind of like seeing red and then passing out, but not passing out, then coming too amongst carnage.  My parents made me do martial arts as a kid to make me less unruly, it just made me better at dealing with people in fights, through school and all the way into my 20s.  havent done that in a while thankfully, but it still simmers in the background, probably always will.

    Try walking away, take some deep breaths, think about something else, close your eyes and forcefully shut it down if needs be.  That has worked for me while working on a number of situations, while dealing with the usual a-holes you come across.  Well almost all of them.  theirs always someone who wants to pursue and get in your face and then well its time to unleash the inner demon, or just have a breakdown. ;)

    At the end of the day this is just how it is.  My suggestion.  Dont make plans if that is a hotspot for you.  Live you r life in the moment.

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  • I just go with it.  Generally if im going to melt, I walk away from the situation, its the only avoidance tactic.  In the past I've had rage meltdowns, mainly years back when I used to go out with friends and aminly if we were brawling.  At the time, kind of like seeing red and then passing out, but not passing out, then coming too amongst carnage.  My parents made me do martial arts as a kid to make me less unruly, it just made me better at dealing with people in fights, through school and all the way into my 20s.  havent done that in a while thankfully, but it still simmers in the background, probably always will.

    Try walking away, take some deep breaths, think about something else, close your eyes and forcefully shut it down if needs be.  That has worked for me while working on a number of situations, while dealing with the usual a-holes you come across.  Well almost all of them.  theirs always someone who wants to pursue and get in your face and then well its time to unleash the inner demon, or just have a breakdown. ;)

    At the end of the day this is just how it is.  My suggestion.  Dont make plans if that is a hotspot for you.  Live you r life in the moment.

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