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I feel I've failed at almost everything

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I'm 33, I have no friends and this has been so for about 10 years, have never had a long term girlriend (only 3 short term ones, in other words barely proper girlfriends at all) and each career goal I had I didn't reach due to not being able to do so.

In social groups, pubs, on dating websites, Twitter, Facebook I get ignored more than other people, I'm apparently less funny or interesting. Except for my mum most my family patronise me and don't value any of my opinions even when I spend hours researching them.

Seems I have not succeeded at much of anything. I feel a bit depressed about it tonight. That's all.

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  • I hear you. I'm 37 and have no friends. I can maintain romantic relationships but it's very hard work. I identify with your comment on family patronising. But you are not alone. You have a 'tribe'. It is us. You have a friend in us.

  • in reply to PickAChew

    I'm 40, but I felt that my career ended upon graduation at 22. Expressionless

    I had to deal with caring for relatives and voluntary work. But I feel like a loser for not having a steady job, wife and kids. I was practically thrown to the lions after I left formal education. I think that conventional schooling is counterproductive. Those who were there just to smoke and fight ended up with the life-skills. Rant over.

    However, I have grown as a human being in the past few years. I'm learning how to survive on my own. Also, I work on myself; as a human being rather than a human-doing. Now, I am acting like an adult.

    For me, I have always wanted to be normal, after feeling awkward and uncomfortable in my skin for so long. I'm no fan of conventional logic on Autism. But each to their own. Slight smile

  • in reply to Desmond79

    Your career ended upon graduation? - Is this because the workplace was too overwhelming? ('thrown to the lions'). I am a life-long student lol.

    Do you have any tips for surviving alone? I'm a clingy co-dependent but would love to develop confidence in my ability to survive alone. I have a constant fear people will abandon me because I'm "hard work". It would be lovely not to give a ***.

    How are you finding corona lock-down?

  • in reply to Desmond79

    So dont give a fk, PickAChew.  Giving 0 fks is just a state of mind.  Its not always succesful and can get you in a lot of trouble if you arent careful, but it does work for some things.  Living on yoru own is much the same.  I did it when I was younger for around 10 years before I went to Uni.  the first 3 years are hard.  After that you gradually engage in the no longer giving a sht about anything mindset and life gets easier.  You establish your routines and life becomes like a conveyor belt, filled with the things you want to do.

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  • in reply to Desmond79

    So dont give a fk, PickAChew.  Giving 0 fks is just a state of mind.  Its not always succesful and can get you in a lot of trouble if you arent careful, but it does work for some things.  Living on yoru own is much the same.  I did it when I was younger for around 10 years before I went to Uni.  the first 3 years are hard.  After that you gradually engage in the no longer giving a sht about anything mindset and life gets easier.  You establish your routines and life becomes like a conveyor belt, filled with the things you want to do.

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