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Tips for talking to your partner?

AJ

Posting on this forum is the first time I've ever shared my concerns with anybody else, after many many years of wondering. I feel that this has been a great step for me, but I really think my partner deserves to know what I am going through, or about to be going through if I push for a diagnosis.

I've been married for two and a half years, but we've been together for about eight years altogether. I realise that there might be things that they have noticed that I haven't, and annoying behaviours of mine that might make more sense with this context.

So, as per the title of the thread, does anybody have any tips for speaking to their partner when you think you may be autistic?

I guess the same goes for speaking with family, as I'm sure my parents may have some insight to share too.

PS: I've found the comments on my introduction thread really encouraging, so thank you all for that, it means a lot. :) 

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  • Hi AJ, I don't have a diagnosis but believe I'm somewhere on the spectrum. I just said to my partner one day after having read tania marshall for the 1000th time, "do you think I do XYZ?" and it opened up discussion. It was a massive moment for me. We have gone over it and bsck to it dozens of times. It was quite difficult at first as he would say "yeah but I do that too" and we would fall out. I felt I couldn't get my point across without him shutting it down in this way. I find it difficukt yo explain thungs aloud which are in my head. But now I realise he didn't really know what to say. He is very supportive. I've no idea how to approach it with my parents though. A family member is going through the diagnostic process and my mum said this family member "is one of the autisticals. ...well she was always a bit funny". So I'm still working out how to approach it.

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  • Hi AJ, I don't have a diagnosis but believe I'm somewhere on the spectrum. I just said to my partner one day after having read tania marshall for the 1000th time, "do you think I do XYZ?" and it opened up discussion. It was a massive moment for me. We have gone over it and bsck to it dozens of times. It was quite difficult at first as he would say "yeah but I do that too" and we would fall out. I felt I couldn't get my point across without him shutting it down in this way. I find it difficukt yo explain thungs aloud which are in my head. But now I realise he didn't really know what to say. He is very supportive. I've no idea how to approach it with my parents though. A family member is going through the diagnostic process and my mum said this family member "is one of the autisticals. ...well she was always a bit funny". So I'm still working out how to approach it.

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