Odd thought occurring in regards to social interaction.

Now don't get me wrong folks, likely this has been gone over to death in older threads, but being somewhat lazy as I am, figured I might as well poke and post my own to see if there'd be fresh takes or replies. 

So, I've been diagnosed since say, seven or eight, been a while and trying to remember the exact time frame is becoming a hassle, ye auld age and that. But has any other mid to high functional found they're unable to initiate conversations, but at the same time, someone begins one with us, we can dive right in without an issue? This obviously wouldn't be an issue early on during schooling years, for the fact that you're forced in social situations regardless thanks to overcrowded classrooms and all that lovely stuff. It only really becomes an issue later on in life as that circle of 'forced' interaction shrinks, any other hermit Autistic like me might be in the same spot. Now, I'm not as to whether this is some form of autistic related issue, or if it's simply a by product of some kind of anxiety disorder that's grown around me if that makes sense? Almost akin to a cocoon, if my odd metaphor makes sense to anyone else. 

Any input or discussion would greatly interest me, been out of contact with many other Ausitics since the school days were done. 

Also, first post, if by chance I've created this in the wrong sub forum, apologies in advance. 

Parents
  • Yeap I have this problem 100%. Even if it is work related I generally have to plan my first line to open the discussion and a line of subsequent questioning and answers based on predictions of what the other person may say in response. This is based on the talking and thinking pattern of the other person that I store in my memory and I gradually formulate and refine over time.

    This takes a lot of effort!!!! So social interaction really is kept to a minimum. 

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  • Yeap I have this problem 100%. Even if it is work related I generally have to plan my first line to open the discussion and a line of subsequent questioning and answers based on predictions of what the other person may say in response. This is based on the talking and thinking pattern of the other person that I store in my memory and I gradually formulate and refine over time.

    This takes a lot of effort!!!! So social interaction really is kept to a minimum. 

Children
  • Can I sum it up by saying that this is the first time ever I have not had issues with conversations and small talk. 
    I won’t phone or talk to people over the phone unless I have to. At work the lads are always chatting but I have no clue what to say 99% of the time and when I do I seem to ramble and pee everyone off as I won’t shut up. So normally I keep quiet nowadays. 
    On another angle I very often (all the time) misjudge sarcasms and jokes said to me  by people and often get angry and upset as I take it literally and believe they are always having a go at me.