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Regrets obsession

DaveAsperg

Yes I have been very successful but now seem obsessed by all the opportunities I missed mainly because I was so focussed on routines and academia and my job. So I realise I doing this I missed out taking my children to professionals football matches and national rugby matches even though we were often in Twickenham staying at my mother in laws house when the World Cup was on etc.

I know I have a lot left , but I’m stuck on all the negatives. I feel I’ve failed my wife and children.

maybe this negative focus is why autistic people have such a high suicide rate.

but I do like the joke therapy!

what do others feel about focussing on the negative and maybe having been too confident that you were doing well before.......

Any actions that have been helpful? I wonder about pursuing my effort to develop an alternative suicide prevention service as the current medical model is inappropriate for many people.

i am impressed with Russell Brand’s insight into the distress of suicide over Caroline Flack whose death was probably caused by the media and the Crown Prosecution Service. I am pleased the debate has been opened but know that the IOPC has historically always supported the cps and has never said anything against either the police force or the cps, even when coroners have raised concerns. We shall see....... but I am sure they will not criticise the authorities. They only criticise individuals that the police want to dismiss and waste loads of public money defending inappropriate police actions 

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-49955628

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  • ...Greetings, Me again if You do not mind...

    I replied a lot to Your other Threads, and so do not have much else to add apart from paying an attention to the Replies here and upon those other Threads. 

    I shall attempt to be direct, and simply add to responses which say --- that You should not focus upon the "negatives" --- that You are aware of them being "negatives" is a clarion-call at You to remember these, yet to rather Focus upon everything else *but* such "negatives"... that is what I also add.

    I hope this makes sense (...to anyone but Myself?...) 

    also this... 

    DaveAsperg said:
    maybe this negative focus is why autistic people have such a high suicide rate.

    ...Beware. Simply 'researching' "negative" matters may cause "negativity" to grow in spite of the positivity in One's Own Life. As far as I follow, You have a lot of positive things... they may not apply to anyone else but You Yourself are aware of how they make You feel. Focus upon Yourself first, then extend that to "help others". (I tried to say that in My previous Posts.)

    ...To close this Post, I say, yet again, that This Thread introduces too many subjects and I am uncertain about it... the the thing is, to keep positives in mind in order to progress through the negatives.

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  • ...Greetings, Me again if You do not mind...

    I replied a lot to Your other Threads, and so do not have much else to add apart from paying an attention to the Replies here and upon those other Threads. 

    I shall attempt to be direct, and simply add to responses which say --- that You should not focus upon the "negatives" --- that You are aware of them being "negatives" is a clarion-call at You to remember these, yet to rather Focus upon everything else *but* such "negatives"... that is what I also add.

    I hope this makes sense (...to anyone but Myself?...) 

    also this... 

    DaveAsperg said:
    maybe this negative focus is why autistic people have such a high suicide rate.

    ...Beware. Simply 'researching' "negative" matters may cause "negativity" to grow in spite of the positivity in One's Own Life. As far as I follow, You have a lot of positive things... they may not apply to anyone else but You Yourself are aware of how they make You feel. Focus upon Yourself first, then extend that to "help others". (I tried to say that in My previous Posts.)

    ...To close this Post, I say, yet again, that This Thread introduces too many subjects and I am uncertain about it... the the thing is, to keep positives in mind in order to progress through the negatives.

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