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Panic Room!

The Riddler

For a while now I have had an issue with travelling on public transport and going out to unfamiliar places. What seems to be the issue is the unfamiliarity of where toilets are. I say that because it’s what links everything together. I noticed this again recently when I went into a Subway in an unfamiliar area. I found I was instantly scoping for the loo. This is also why I have stopped using trains, because the toilets are very often out of order and on planes thee is also a point when you can’t leave your seat for god knows how long!!

What I think is that toilets have become a safe room! If I’m out and get anxious and need to detach myself for a while. the only place to reliably do this is to lock myself in a cubicle for 5 or 10 minutes.

Does anyone else have anything similar or is this an ASD unrelated issue?

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  • i dont feel like public toilets are safe, but im a dude and the mens toilets are often disgusting and offer no privacy at all which i find to be medieval in standards. they assume we dont like privacy and are ok pissing in the open next to each other, im not ok with that and never have been, its weird and creepy and you can even tell others feel the same about it too and yet we put up with these horrible undignified open bowl toilets cramped together with no privacy. i avoid public toilets if i can, id rather pee in a bush somewhere, you get more privacy peeing in a bush in the park than you get in the mens toilets...

  • in reply to Caelus
    Caelus said:
    dont feel like public toilets are safe

    I am identical on your view with this and always use a trap or disabled toilets and public toilets are disgraceful but that's if you can even find one anymore. But working to the wise it's now an offence To pee in public you could face a criminal charge. 

  • in reply to Arbor

    Yes, there should be many more disabled toilets.  They are of use to more than the disabled. My lad's grown now but I remember the days of being out and about with sleeping baby in pushchair, dying for a pee and unable to go because I'd have to leave him unsupervised outside.  That god send of a disabled loo meant I could park baby still asleep in the corner whilst I did my business.

    I also understand from some trans people that public loo choice has risks, from filthy stares to outright aggression.  The stand alone disabled loo provides a safe choice.

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  • in reply to Arbor

    Yes, there should be many more disabled toilets.  They are of use to more than the disabled. My lad's grown now but I remember the days of being out and about with sleeping baby in pushchair, dying for a pee and unable to go because I'd have to leave him unsupervised outside.  That god send of a disabled loo meant I could park baby still asleep in the corner whilst I did my business.

    I also understand from some trans people that public loo choice has risks, from filthy stares to outright aggression.  The stand alone disabled loo provides a safe choice.

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