Work disciplinary

In these hearings, one is usually allowed to bring in an independent witness or even an advocate to speak on their behalf.

I strongly suggest he does not go alone, but with someone more experienced in these matters.

He didn't have anyone with him for for investigating, but a union rep,went to disciplinary hearing,the rep feels he could appeal because his aspergers wasn't taken seriously,and the whole procedure wasn't done right, but he doesn't know what to do.We think there's an issue with manager asking if he wanted preferential treatment,as how it was phrased doesn t seem right, Thank you for reply I'm at a loss what he should do.

He didn't have anyone with him for for investigating, but a union rep,went to disciplinary hearing,the rep feels he could appeal because his aspergers wasn't taken seriously,and the whole procedure wasn't done right, but he doesn't know what to do.We think there's an issue with manager asking if he wanted preferential treatment,as how it was phrased doesn t seem right, Thank you for reply I'm at a loss what he should do.

we are trying to achieve equity. your son is the guy on 2 boxes. Tinyexplorer  below mentions this as well.

He's just remembered something else they said, they suggested he's putting himself in a box and discriminating against himself ???from what he is saying the disciplinary meeting went totally off course, will be interesting if he receives a copy of the meeting, apparently there are about 15 pages!!

Thankyou,and will let you know,the venting frustration and reasons for doing so sound so familiar

Well they dont call Aspergers/Autism a Disability for nothing! I've lost count of the times I have vented my frustration (caused by the stress of the job) - ususlly being critical of the lack of support and or poor management decisions, that have caused even more stress for me !!!

Anyway, your son is acting as a perfectly normal Aspie :):)

Let us know how things develop!

My son agrees completely,he's remembering more things as the day has gone on,he's feeling much calmer now,as he is processing things more logically, and listening to advice, from yourself and others so thankyou, it's helping me too! He s going to speak to union again and take it from there.I will keep people informed

Wise words Aidie :)

And that's the problem!! We Aspies just sit and nod and agree to everything that is said, sometimes with a smile it's called "Social Masking"

The trouble is that you putting so much effort in trying to "appear" engaged when in fact you can't process what's actually been said to you, well not until well after the meeting has finished.And even then it can take hours to truly comprehend what was going on :)

That's why you must have someone present!!

He loves his job, and this has made him feel let down, which is a shame,he will receive written warning some time this week,he has said he may look for something else but is not easy, thank you for your advise it is much appreciated

I agree with JohnS. They tend to bully you as it is many to one situation. Dont sign anything that isnt true or admits guilt. It doesnt sound like a good place to be working so when this calms down advise him to look around for new jobs at home. Reading what other companies want/need can guide u to get experience in those areas while in your current job.

Unfortunately did name company on one post, but then they trailed through all his posts, looking for anything that could relate to the company, hence bringing up all posts that he hash tagged work,even though the majority had no relation to the company,problem being at initial investigation he answered all questions, he is very honest,he says as anxiety and panic increased just agreed,at that meeting he had no representation. He declared himself as having a disability from word go,we have asked informally if they had remembered he's aspergic, their answer being everyone knows , he is very well liked by his staff, but main problem is post was picked up by area manager, and pinged from manager to manager,his own main manager and line manager could of stepped in and spoke up for him but they didn't .

Trouble is that they should have given more of a warning to allow time to prepare etc Typical bullying tactics and taking advantage of your son, Has he declared his disability to his workplace - I guess having it since the age of 3, he would have needed to declare this on his job application.

I would seek Union advice as to whether the company was following correct procedure (30 mins before the meeting doesn't sound right to me). I would discuss filing a grievance via the Union, as this might be the first salvo in an attempt to get rid of your son. So better for the Union Rep to put yours sons management on notice that you will take it further.

If your son has not specifically mention his companies name then I can't see what grounds they have for a disciplinary?? Again Union advice here.

It sounds to me that your son's manager has a personal agenda here??

Was diagnosed at 3, now 26,so covered there,but they seemed to dismiss his apergers in meeting,and told him it's quite common to receive letters just before investigation meeting, which doesn't seem right,union rep did say if he had of been able to attend first meeting with himwhole thing could have been avoided, but what can you do if only given 30 minutes to prepare.He has held his hands up to offending posts and was given impression he would just get a slap on the wrist.

I would always take the Union advice. I am Unite and my Union Reps were brilliant when a Senior manager tried to move me into another group at work (against my will), as I was accused of making derogatory remarks about the Senior Management. Of course they couldn't back their allegations up, especially when it was supposed to have occurred over 18 months ago.As soon as the Union rep threatened to take further action, they all backed down.

So now things have settled down, although they tried to get me to decide (in two days) whether to take voluntary redundancy. My Union Rep went ballistic because (1) they knew about my recent Autism diagnosis (the accusations  made to me, kick started the whole Autism diagnosis) and (2) They didn't invite my Union Rep to support me.

Again they quickly backed down, saying it was all a misunderstanding.

However, I don't ever mention my work or Company name on Social Media for the very reason your son has be picked up on.

The warning for a year is standard and you should ignore it and move on.

However, longer term your son IS entitled to a little more flexibility because of Asperger's BUT only if he has an official diagnosis.

If he hasn't got one, then he should seek one ASAP