Feeling Broken

Kitsune said:

My husband is splitting up with me because he can’t cope with my Aspergers! To be honest it’s a relief as I’d have left him years ago if he hadn’t trapped me. But i think I’d held out hope that he would change and stop being a complete control freak. But that switch has flicked now and I’ve realised that he will never change and the reality and enormity of years of emotional, financial and physical abuse towards myself and my eldest daughter is finally hitting me.

It very much seems that having your Asperger's Syndrome diagnosis has been of much greater benefit than might ordinarily be hoped for with an abusive partner breaking up with you on account of which. The fact though that you report your older daughter being abused and thereby the whole family living in an abusive atmosphere is of considerable concern, and I think you should perhaps get in touch with an organization that deals with domestic abuse for the sake of some support and guidance that you may very well need, such as for instance from Women's Aid via their all day every day free telephone number:

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And or via their website address:

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/.

Kitsune said:

It’s not a good feeling to finally realise how little I mean to someone and the extent to which they have used me to make their own life more comfortable.

Getting double blagged (i.e. used and abused) as such is always an ugly thing to come to terms with, but no matter how uncomfortable this may be, your and your daughters' increasing comfort and developing confidence away from and without abuse is very much a shared interest of great and fundamental import here.

Wishing you and your daughters all the very best support wise and everything

DT

Kitsune said:

My husband is splitting up with me because he can’t cope with my Aspergers! To be honest it’s a relief as I’d have left him years ago if he hadn’t trapped me. But i think I’d held out hope that he would change and stop being a complete control freak. But that switch has flicked now and I’ve realised that he will never change and the reality and enormity of years of emotional, financial and physical abuse towards myself and my eldest daughter is finally hitting me.

It very much seems that having your Asperger's Syndrome diagnosis has been of much greater benefit than might ordinarily be hoped for with an abusive partner breaking up with you on account of which. The fact though that you report your older daughter being abused and thereby the whole family living in an abusive atmosphere is of considerable concern, and I think you should perhaps get in touch with an organization that deals with domestic abuse for the sake of some support and guidance that you may very well need, such as for instance from Women's Aid via their all day every day free telephone number:

0 8 0 8  2 0 0 0  2 4 7 

And or via their website address:

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/.

Kitsune said:

It’s not a good feeling to finally realise how little I mean to someone and the extent to which they have used me to make their own life more comfortable.

Getting double blagged (i.e. used and abused) as such is always an ugly thing to come to terms with, but no matter how uncomfortable this may be, your and your daughters' increasing comfort and developing confidence away from and without abuse is very much a shared interest of great and fundamental import here.

Wishing you and your daughters all the very best support wise and everything

DT

Well indeed! Thank you for your advice DeepthoughtMy Children’s welfare is paramount.