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HelpingMia

I’m finding so much of you’re help so insightful and it is helping me understand bits and pieces about my partner and the relationship. I posted yesterday and got great advice so thankyou for that :) 
Id love lots of responses to this so I can find a solid understanding. 
What exactly does an ASD man want from his NT girlfriend? In all aspects of the relationship? We are in our early 30’s have children (from previous relationships) and own a house together so I feel like there are actual commitments here. We established he had ASD about a year or so into the relationship and have been trying since to figure out ways to make it work. Any help or tips are all very welcome. I love my partner so much and very much want it to work and for us both to be happy. 

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  • HelpingMia said:
    Any help or tips are all very welcome.

    Maybe read 'The Complete Guide Asperger's Syndrome' book; by Tony Attwood, which costs about £20 new, or is available free as a PDF by way of the following link:

    http://www.autismforthvalley.co.uk/files/5314/4595/7798/Attwood-Tony-The-Complete-Guide-to-Aspergers-Syndrome.pdf

    Also have a look at the following list of books and at least perhaps consider reading 'Look Me In The Eye ~ My Life with Asperger's' book; by John Elder Robison, to provide a bit of insight from what some might call a "stereotypical" male's point of view ~ via the following link:

    https://www.everydayhealth.com/autism/living-with/best-autism-aspergers-books/

    And just as  states regarding individuality and individual requirements in relationships, consider the following question and answer perhaps:

    IBCCES Board Member and international speaker Dr. Stephen Shore was recently interviewed by Lime Connect. Read on for an excerpt and a link to the full interview delving into Dr. Shore’s perspective as a professor and professional who happens to be on the autism spectrum:

    Lime Connect: You’ve famously said, “If you’ve met one person with autism, you’ve met one person with autism.” Why is that an important point for people to understand about their interactions with individuals with autism, in particular?

    Dr. Stephen Shore: This quote emphasizes that there is great diversity within the autism spectrum. While the commonalities of people on the autism spectrum include differences in communication, social interaction, sensory receptivity, and highly focused interests, it’s important to understand that the constellation of these characteristics blends together differently for each individual. This is why some on the spectrum are good at mathematics while other may be good in their arts, sports, or writing – just like the rest of humanity. Autism is an extension of the diversity found in the human gene pool.

    https://ibcces.org/blog/2018/03/23/12748/

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  • HelpingMia said:
    Any help or tips are all very welcome.

    Maybe read 'The Complete Guide Asperger's Syndrome' book; by Tony Attwood, which costs about £20 new, or is available free as a PDF by way of the following link:

    http://www.autismforthvalley.co.uk/files/5314/4595/7798/Attwood-Tony-The-Complete-Guide-to-Aspergers-Syndrome.pdf

    Also have a look at the following list of books and at least perhaps consider reading 'Look Me In The Eye ~ My Life with Asperger's' book; by John Elder Robison, to provide a bit of insight from what some might call a "stereotypical" male's point of view ~ via the following link:

    https://www.everydayhealth.com/autism/living-with/best-autism-aspergers-books/

    And just as  states regarding individuality and individual requirements in relationships, consider the following question and answer perhaps:

    IBCCES Board Member and international speaker Dr. Stephen Shore was recently interviewed by Lime Connect. Read on for an excerpt and a link to the full interview delving into Dr. Shore’s perspective as a professor and professional who happens to be on the autism spectrum:

    Lime Connect: You’ve famously said, “If you’ve met one person with autism, you’ve met one person with autism.” Why is that an important point for people to understand about their interactions with individuals with autism, in particular?

    Dr. Stephen Shore: This quote emphasizes that there is great diversity within the autism spectrum. While the commonalities of people on the autism spectrum include differences in communication, social interaction, sensory receptivity, and highly focused interests, it’s important to understand that the constellation of these characteristics blends together differently for each individual. This is why some on the spectrum are good at mathematics while other may be good in their arts, sports, or writing – just like the rest of humanity. Autism is an extension of the diversity found in the human gene pool.

    https://ibcces.org/blog/2018/03/23/12748/

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