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HelpingMia

I’m finding so much of you’re help so insightful and it is helping me understand bits and pieces about my partner and the relationship. I posted yesterday and got great advice so thankyou for that :) 
Id love lots of responses to this so I can find a solid understanding. 
What exactly does an ASD man want from his NT girlfriend? In all aspects of the relationship? We are in our early 30’s have children (from previous relationships) and own a house together so I feel like there are actual commitments here. We established he had ASD about a year or so into the relationship and have been trying since to figure out ways to make it work. Any help or tips are all very welcome. I love my partner so much and very much want it to work and for us both to be happy. 

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  • I'm not an autistic man, but that seems like an impossible question to answer. Everyone has different ideas of what they want from their relationship, their life etc. - one autistic man will want an entirely different type of relationship to another. I think your partner's the only one who can truly answer this question for you. If he struggles to communicate it verbally, maybe you could both write each other a letter explaining what you love about each other, which elements of the relationship you find challenging, what's important to you (in your relationship and in life), and how you could better support one another. You could then compare the two and look at areas where you might find a middle ground.

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  • I'm not an autistic man, but that seems like an impossible question to answer. Everyone has different ideas of what they want from their relationship, their life etc. - one autistic man will want an entirely different type of relationship to another. I think your partner's the only one who can truly answer this question for you. If he struggles to communicate it verbally, maybe you could both write each other a letter explaining what you love about each other, which elements of the relationship you find challenging, what's important to you (in your relationship and in life), and how you could better support one another. You could then compare the two and look at areas where you might find a middle ground.

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