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i feel like I cant do anything right

NAS65512

hello! 

i have just turned 20 years old (i dont feel older than 16) and I feel like my life is going down hill, not because of anything or anyone, mainly because of myself. I never seem to do anything even if I really need to. for e.g, call the doctors, go gym, go to bed early, do chores. just normal stuff really, I always seem to do the opposite. so if u told me I wasnt ill I would think I'm ill or if u said I need to go to the hospital I wont. I cant listen even it I tried. 

I just seem to always do the wrong tbing and everytime I do the rigjt thing I always feel like something gets in my way everytime. like I'll fall down the hill fast everytime I stop myself, omething slways hits me back down and I'll fall even more further. I come to tje point that what i'm saying is stuoid but I keep getting the same feeling. I legit feel like I csnt do anytbing.

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  • Hi - welcome to the group. 

    I can relate to a lot of what you're saying. I really struggle to get things done, even if they're things I desperately want to do. For example, I love creative writing, but every time I try to do it, I feel like I've placed a demand on myself and I start procrastinating, as I would with anything else. I really struggle with what I'd call 'home admin' (like sorting the post, booking in with the dentist, tidying/cleaning the flat etc.). I also procrastinate over things like going to bed, even if I'm exhausted to the point of falling asleep on the sofa.

    I've tried making to-do lists for myself, but I've had to scale back on this, because even my to-do list became a form of procrastination (I'd spend 2-3 hours writing a comprehensive list of all the things I had to do, then get overwhelmed by the length of the list and feel unable to do any of it, and that list would grow each day). 

    Nowadays, I try to use my calendar for reminders (e.g. if I need to read the electricity metre on a specific date) and write simple to-do lists (I have a notepad split into sections, so I have a list for home tasks, one for health-related stuff, one for hobbies etc.). I don't put everything on my to-do list though - just the really important stuff. I also set phone alarms to remind me to do things sometimes (e.g. if I need to ring the doctor at 8am). Also, if I'm feeling more energetic than usual (which is rare!) I try and get some jobs done (like housework) while I'm in the right mind-set.

    I've certainly not mastered it and there are lots of things I don't get around to doing, but I'm doing my best to work on it. 

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  • Hi - welcome to the group. 

    I can relate to a lot of what you're saying. I really struggle to get things done, even if they're things I desperately want to do. For example, I love creative writing, but every time I try to do it, I feel like I've placed a demand on myself and I start procrastinating, as I would with anything else. I really struggle with what I'd call 'home admin' (like sorting the post, booking in with the dentist, tidying/cleaning the flat etc.). I also procrastinate over things like going to bed, even if I'm exhausted to the point of falling asleep on the sofa.

    I've tried making to-do lists for myself, but I've had to scale back on this, because even my to-do list became a form of procrastination (I'd spend 2-3 hours writing a comprehensive list of all the things I had to do, then get overwhelmed by the length of the list and feel unable to do any of it, and that list would grow each day). 

    Nowadays, I try to use my calendar for reminders (e.g. if I need to read the electricity metre on a specific date) and write simple to-do lists (I have a notepad split into sections, so I have a list for home tasks, one for health-related stuff, one for hobbies etc.). I don't put everything on my to-do list though - just the really important stuff. I also set phone alarms to remind me to do things sometimes (e.g. if I need to ring the doctor at 8am). Also, if I'm feeling more energetic than usual (which is rare!) I try and get some jobs done (like housework) while I'm in the right mind-set.

    I've certainly not mastered it and there are lots of things I don't get around to doing, but I'm doing my best to work on it. 

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