I think I'm on the spectrum. I love my partner dearly but as in any relationship there is friction. Since I have had the lightbulb moment of identifying with autism, I have been able to analyse miscommunication and friction so it doesn't escalate (as much) or have been able to understand why there have been difficulties.
This is really trivial. My partner asked me a while ago to not leave crumbs on the kitchen worktop. That's a fair enough request and I've stuck by it as much as I remember to. He has since left crumbs several times. Knowing what I know about myself I have been trying to use humour so it doesn't escalate but today it did. There's often been a "yeah, but...." however today I was met with "but crumbs don't bother you so you don't need to have a go at me". It was really frustrating. I said I understood that but it's double standards. He said him leaving crumbs himself didn't bother him it was when I did it. I said it was a matter of principle and if you make these rules you yourself have to stick with them. I think instead of admitting fault, he was trying to wriggle out of it by saying these things. I don't know if he meant it or just didn't want to admit liability.
I used to work with a guy who wouldn't stick by his own rules and it was incredibly frustrating. No one else seemed to be bothered.
And I'm still wondering if I am on the spectrum. This is another example of a long list of things in my head where I feel I might be.
