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After a lifetime of masking, how do I unmask?

mouse2
over 4 years ago

After a lifetime of copying people to fit in (without realising) how do I stop? How do I find the real me? I feel exhausted right now. I've been reading about ASD in women and wow do I mask alot depending on the situation. I feel I dont know who I am after nearly 40 years masking. I wish that I could be like my don, he is who he is and that's that. Anyone else experienced this with masking?

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  • over 4 years ago

    I would second what Prankster and Christmas Cards are saying. Maybe the question will be more easy to answer if you put it in a need, an actionable context.

    For example, if you are exhausted and in meltdown often, what would help? Then maybe it will be easier to see what your needs are and how to prioritise them?

    II suppose I unmasked a little by reducing the occasions when I need to mask. I don't socialise with people who drain me, unless there is a structured purpose to this. 

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  • over 4 years ago

    I would second what Prankster and Christmas Cards are saying. Maybe the question will be more easy to answer if you put it in a need, an actionable context.

    For example, if you are exhausted and in meltdown often, what would help? Then maybe it will be easier to see what your needs are and how to prioritise them?

    II suppose I unmasked a little by reducing the occasions when I need to mask. I don't socialise with people who drain me, unless there is a structured purpose to this. 

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