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After a lifetime of masking, how do I unmask?

mouse2
over 4 years ago

After a lifetime of copying people to fit in (without realising) how do I stop? How do I find the real me? I feel exhausted right now. I've been reading about ASD in women and wow do I mask alot depending on the situation. I feel I dont know who I am after nearly 40 years masking. I wish that I could be like my don, he is who he is and that's that. Anyone else experienced this with masking?

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  • over 4 years ago

    I used to think that I was just unsociable but made an effort in certain situations to be empathic, interested etc. But after a while I would give and go back to be unsociable. I always thought that this was normal like everyone else. Now I think I was social masking and afterva while became too much of an effort to carry on.

    I find now, that I am less inclined to "make an effort" ie no mask. I also spend more time with noise cancelling headphones in and that way people tend to leave you alone :) 

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  • over 4 years ago

    I used to think that I was just unsociable but made an effort in certain situations to be empathic, interested etc. But after a while I would give and go back to be unsociable. I always thought that this was normal like everyone else. Now I think I was social masking and afterva while became too much of an effort to carry on.

    I find now, that I am less inclined to "make an effort" ie no mask. I also spend more time with noise cancelling headphones in and that way people tend to leave you alone :) 

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