Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi everyone,
My husband has just been diagnosed as ASD and I am really not coping with his behaviour pattern that he is starting to develop. All week he is a normal functioning amusing, guy then Friday night he comes home with a weird look on his face and we (my daughter and I) realise that he is in his alter ego No.2. He goes into a severe mood and is horrible, dismissive, moody, snappy and seems uncoordinated and just plays on his phone reading twitter.
This is starting to happen every weekend and anything we try and do as a family he spoils with his behaviour - which apparently is our fault. I am really at the end of my tether - despite having counselling now with a psychologist he refuses to try and help himself. I have done everything from trying routines to doing all financial stuff - Do I just divorce him as he refuses to try to help himself and certainly does not care enough about us to try.
It is seriously starting to affect my daughter , (10) who would prefer him to go away than upset her.
If I was in your shoes and had a husband who is happy to hurt me and his daughter I'd leave.
I'm autistic and I need downtime to cope with the working week but when I was working (now on mat leave) I sat down with my husband and we worked out a plan for how we both get a rest but also meet the needs of the family.
Like our NT counterparts, there are some autistics who are nice folk and some who aren't. It seems like you've got one of the ones who isn't and isn't willing to change (hugs).