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How do you guys cope with social media?

Uncertain

Hey all,

So - my situation in brief - I'm not diagnosed ASD but many people have asked me over the years if I am and about 6 months ago I was referred for an ASD assessment by a psychologist I was seeing for something else.

Regarding social media - I really suck at social media. I really feel the creative need to make content and try to get a regular posting thing going, but I always end up upsetting people, getting into arguments or else seemingly missing the point or realising I've made some terrible faux pas or unfunny thing - in hindsight. I find it hard to get followers on anything and I don't really understand what I'm supposed to use it for or what everyone else is doing on it (eg Twitter, Facebook). I tend to completely misread situations, tone, certain comments, sexually implied content and the reason for any of it.

 As with most things, I know if I can work out whats going on, I should be alright - it's just getting there. 

I'm interested in how anyone else copes with this?

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  • Badly is the short answer.

    Like you, I have a creative side and I wanted to engage with others by sharing thoughts, writing, artwork, photography etc. I got into Facebook around 2008, then Twitter around 2014, and have dabbled in Instagram occasionally. What I *eventually* learned though is:

    • I got addicted to tracking how many likes / shares / retweets I got
    • I wasn't particularly interested in reading other people's profiles, just wanted everyone to look at mine
    • I got obsessed on Facebook with "curating" my friends into groups, and as a whole group (so got stressed about who I should be friends with and had several unfriend/re-friend cycles which were unfair to the other person)
    • I flirted too much, too often
    • I read too much into likes from celebrities
    • I couldn't (and still can't) bear rejection and my anxiety went through the roof if anyone disagreed with me let alone went ad hominem on me

    Eventually I concluded that, for me, the advantages weren't worth all of the above, so I deleted Facebook and then Twitter shortly afterwards.

    I honestly haven't looked back, except to be pleased myself for with realising the points above and taking positive action.

    It means that I miss out on some conversations and sharing nowadays, but I can live with that.

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  • Badly is the short answer.

    Like you, I have a creative side and I wanted to engage with others by sharing thoughts, writing, artwork, photography etc. I got into Facebook around 2008, then Twitter around 2014, and have dabbled in Instagram occasionally. What I *eventually* learned though is:

    • I got addicted to tracking how many likes / shares / retweets I got
    • I wasn't particularly interested in reading other people's profiles, just wanted everyone to look at mine
    • I got obsessed on Facebook with "curating" my friends into groups, and as a whole group (so got stressed about who I should be friends with and had several unfriend/re-friend cycles which were unfair to the other person)
    • I flirted too much, too often
    • I read too much into likes from celebrities
    • I couldn't (and still can't) bear rejection and my anxiety went through the roof if anyone disagreed with me let alone went ad hominem on me

    Eventually I concluded that, for me, the advantages weren't worth all of the above, so I deleted Facebook and then Twitter shortly afterwards.

    I honestly haven't looked back, except to be pleased myself for with realising the points above and taking positive action.

    It means that I miss out on some conversations and sharing nowadays, but I can live with that.

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