• Replies 14 replies
  • Subscribers 89 subscribers
  • Views 7729 views
  • Users 0 members are here
Options
Related
Hints and tips
  • To quote someone's message, first select/highlight the relevant text, and then use the Quote button that appears
  • To "mention" someone, type @ followed by the start of the forum name, and choose from the list; that person will get a notification of being mentioned

How do you guys cope with social media?

Uncertain

Hey all,

So - my situation in brief - I'm not diagnosed ASD but many people have asked me over the years if I am and about 6 months ago I was referred for an ASD assessment by a psychologist I was seeing for something else.

Regarding social media - I really suck at social media. I really feel the creative need to make content and try to get a regular posting thing going, but I always end up upsetting people, getting into arguments or else seemingly missing the point or realising I've made some terrible faux pas or unfunny thing - in hindsight. I find it hard to get followers on anything and I don't really understand what I'm supposed to use it for or what everyone else is doing on it (eg Twitter, Facebook). I tend to completely misread situations, tone, certain comments, sexually implied content and the reason for any of it.

 As with most things, I know if I can work out whats going on, I should be alright - it's just getting there. 

I'm interested in how anyone else copes with this?

Parents

  • Like Plastic, I've never bothered with social media due to the fake-ness of it all, and the fact I'm just not that interested in other people and don't have any friends to keep in touch with anyway.

    However, back in August, I made my first ingress into the world of Twitter, but only for a very specific purpose. In response to all the news on climate change, I started a petition to Parliament to institute a new annual public holiday for planting trees, and thought Twitter would be an effective way to get the word out. I've picked up about 150 followers and a few hundred signatures for my petition, but I find it utterly exhausting to the point I've not really been on there for the last month or so. I see it as a tool for a specific purpose (i.e. promoting my petition), but beyond that I don't see myself ever using it.

    I think your aim is admirable, but people are very fickle and there is a lot of nastiness on social media due to the anonymity of it all, especially in the artistic world where it is so very subjective. Whilst I did get some criticism from one person in particular on Twitter about how a tree bank holiday would never happen and how it wouldn't address climate change etc., I used the back and forth debate with him to really help clarify and hone my argument, and ended up writing an article on LinkedIn which addressed all the nay-sayers' counter arguments, and that article was well received. However, I've not been able to get anything like the exposure I thought I could because I just don't know how to be popular and I don't have the energy to keep faking it.

Reply

  • Like Plastic, I've never bothered with social media due to the fake-ness of it all, and the fact I'm just not that interested in other people and don't have any friends to keep in touch with anyway.

    However, back in August, I made my first ingress into the world of Twitter, but only for a very specific purpose. In response to all the news on climate change, I started a petition to Parliament to institute a new annual public holiday for planting trees, and thought Twitter would be an effective way to get the word out. I've picked up about 150 followers and a few hundred signatures for my petition, but I find it utterly exhausting to the point I've not really been on there for the last month or so. I see it as a tool for a specific purpose (i.e. promoting my petition), but beyond that I don't see myself ever using it.

    I think your aim is admirable, but people are very fickle and there is a lot of nastiness on social media due to the anonymity of it all, especially in the artistic world where it is so very subjective. Whilst I did get some criticism from one person in particular on Twitter about how a tree bank holiday would never happen and how it wouldn't address climate change etc., I used the back and forth debate with him to really help clarify and hone my argument, and ended up writing an article on LinkedIn which addressed all the nay-sayers' counter arguments, and that article was well received. However, I've not been able to get anything like the exposure I thought I could because I just don't know how to be popular and I don't have the energy to keep faking it.

Children
  • in reply to Nessie
    Nessie said:
    I've not been able to get anything like the exposure I thought I could because I just don't know how to be popular and I don't have the energy to keep faking it.

    And that's the thing - there's literally millions of people all trying to do the same thing - it's exhausting to keep on top of it and play the politics-game involved too - and that's something we're bad at in the first place!    I admire anyone who can make a name for themselves in that game.

    My daughter is highly skilled at it - I think she's got about 100,000 followers - but she's not even in the first league!

    And then going on to actually make money or forge a career from it is a massive job.

    Good luck! Smiley