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Dichotomy of AS females talking to males

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I am self-identified as likely being on the spectrum. Before I knew this I used to try to figure out why I sometimes really struggled with people of the opposite sex or got on really well with them.

Can any females relate to the fact that you might struggle with men in one situation as you are expected to be the more social ones and "lead" the conversation. Yet on the other hand get on really well in other situations with a different man/men because they are more direct in their communication and there aren't as many variances/subtleties as there are with females?

Can any women relate to what I'm saying or am I just talking nonense? 

Thanks

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  • That doesn’t surprise me- a lot of intelligent people think we’re all there somewhere. I think most humans get on really well with people who are similar to them. Usually this starts from shared values whatever they may be.

    Some men and boys have been violent to me and women and girls have not. So that is the reason I have not got on with some men. Men have been a lot crueller generally. Women and girls have also been cruel and deceptive to me but not to the awful extent that men have.  I have also met some nice men who have been so helpful and also some nice women who have been helpful. But often their help is short lived and transitory in nature and then they abandon me.

    I think both men and women can be direct to the point of insensitivity at times. But I have not found that men were more direct in communication-in fact I have found them to be much more deceitful, secretive and competitive and also more often violent in comparison with women.

    When are women expected to be the more social ones? What does this mean?

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  • That doesn’t surprise me- a lot of intelligent people think we’re all there somewhere. I think most humans get on really well with people who are similar to them. Usually this starts from shared values whatever they may be.

    Some men and boys have been violent to me and women and girls have not. So that is the reason I have not got on with some men. Men have been a lot crueller generally. Women and girls have also been cruel and deceptive to me but not to the awful extent that men have.  I have also met some nice men who have been so helpful and also some nice women who have been helpful. But often their help is short lived and transitory in nature and then they abandon me.

    I think both men and women can be direct to the point of insensitivity at times. But I have not found that men were more direct in communication-in fact I have found them to be much more deceitful, secretive and competitive and also more often violent in comparison with women.

    When are women expected to be the more social ones? What does this mean?

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