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Dichotomy of AS females talking to males

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I am self-identified as likely being on the spectrum. Before I knew this I used to try to figure out why I sometimes really struggled with people of the opposite sex or got on really well with them.

Can any females relate to the fact that you might struggle with men in one situation as you are expected to be the more social ones and "lead" the conversation. Yet on the other hand get on really well in other situations with a different man/men because they are more direct in their communication and there aren't as many variances/subtleties as there are with females?

Can any women relate to what I'm saying or am I just talking nonense? 

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  • I can definitely relate, and no, you are not talking nonsense.

    I think Alpha Males expect you to be flirty and girly, to fawn at their manliness and achievements whilst they impress you with their popularity and big ego. Beta Males are more eager to please and follow your lead, and Omega Males are basically on the spectrum or at least have some spectrum-type traits.

    Betas and Omegas are much easier to get on with. Alphas make no sense to us because, to them, social status is everything.

  • in reply to Nessie

    I don't know if I'm referring to alpha,  beta or omega males really although I can understand where you're coming from. Interestingly, one male I got on with particularly well with at work a number of years ago was very typically alpha.  Because he was so forward I got on with him well as I didn't have to do any of the work. There was a lot of banter and I think he might have found me a bit mysterious!

    I think basically if the man is expecting me to do the work or at least initiate it, that's when I struggle because I don't have any given cues.

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  • in reply to Nessie

    I don't know if I'm referring to alpha,  beta or omega males really although I can understand where you're coming from. Interestingly, one male I got on with particularly well with at work a number of years ago was very typically alpha.  Because he was so forward I got on with him well as I didn't have to do any of the work. There was a lot of banter and I think he might have found me a bit mysterious!

    I think basically if the man is expecting me to do the work or at least initiate it, that's when I struggle because I don't have any given cues.

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