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Recently diagnosed adult and not coping well

Gafa

Hi All,

I am brand new to the community and this is my first post.

I had a private assessment last week and was diagnosed with asd. I was "hoping" for this outcome but now I've got the diagnosis I'm having a bit of a meltdown.

I have a full time job and a wife and live what society would consider a normal life but have always known I was a bit different and previously have had diagnosis of dyslexia, dyspraxia, anxiety and depression.

With this new diagnosis I am questioning everything that I previously thought I knew about myself and my perception of the world. The worst thing perhaps is suddenly feeling more disabled than before and feeling less able/confident than I was before. 

If anyone else has had an adult diagnosis and struggled with similar thoughts and adjustment I would really appreciate hearing from you.

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  • Could I suggest you force yourself to do nothing for a couple of weeks? Don't change anything, don't take any actions, don't tell anybody (that you haven't already told), don't let this impact how you approach family and work.

    You probably can't stop yourself from thinking about it, but you're still the same person, all the things that you have done well to get a job, all the things that help you live a relatively normal life are all still worth doing. This is your opportunity to sit back and go, "Wow! I've struggled but look what I achieved without this important knowledge. Maybe I'm better at this 'life' thing than I realised."

    That small amount of time gives you the chance to reflect on what does work well for you, and lets you plan what you should do if you want change in your life. It's possible to change an awful lot but do it deliberately without losing all the good things too.

  • in reply to Just some guy

    Exactly, I agree with you- concentrate on that you are still the same person

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