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Recently diagnosed adult and not coping well

Gafa

Hi All,

I am brand new to the community and this is my first post.

I had a private assessment last week and was diagnosed with asd. I was "hoping" for this outcome but now I've got the diagnosis I'm having a bit of a meltdown.

I have a full time job and a wife and live what society would consider a normal life but have always known I was a bit different and previously have had diagnosis of dyslexia, dyspraxia, anxiety and depression.

With this new diagnosis I am questioning everything that I previously thought I knew about myself and my perception of the world. The worst thing perhaps is suddenly feeling more disabled than before and feeling less able/confident than I was before. 

If anyone else has had an adult diagnosis and struggled with similar thoughts and adjustment I would really appreciate hearing from you.

Parents

  • Hello there,

    Similar situation here, I'm about a year after my diagnosis, and like every single person who gets a diagnosis as an adult, I am still coming to terms with it, even though I knew for years In my own mind.

    All I can say is give it time, there's nothing wrong with any of us, we just think in a slightly different way to other people, mostly a better way I believe.

    All the best

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  • Hello there,

    Similar situation here, I'm about a year after my diagnosis, and like every single person who gets a diagnosis as an adult, I am still coming to terms with it, even though I knew for years In my own mind.

    All I can say is give it time, there's nothing wrong with any of us, we just think in a slightly different way to other people, mostly a better way I believe.

    All the best

Children
  • in reply to NAS62372

    Exactly I agree with you - no one is disordered. Everyone is different and unique. What they tell you and what one thinks are of course different because, as you suggest, give it time and we may see how things are not always as they seem and the world in its complexity is not a matter of generalisation but there is good and bad on this planet and we must focus on the good and there is goodness in loving eachother. How do humans learn or know how to love their human family? It is through loving feelings and acts of kindness. We are all learning to love. Some people feel love more keenly I believe. I have read that golden retrievers are one of the most sensitive of dogs. They are a type of dog so still a dog but different to another type of dog that may not be so sensitive. So because of that they can help people. When people learn to love that is a great thing. Incidentally, I have also read that the loudest bark currently is held by a golden retriever dog. So they can be sensitive and also loud. We are all different. We need to have faith that love will be all we need.