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Different not Broken

Kitsune

I haven’t been on here much the past week so apologies if this has been posted before:

https://annsautism.blogspot.com/2019/05/autistic-people-so-new-research.html?m=1&fbclid=IwAR0EGamhKSl_MBHXtRCrnqLuHKZO7S8NSefVQdMXEr_beIQmyKeDtWQAD94

See, we do have effective social communication! It’s just different from that of non-autistic people. This is why it works so well when we are friends with other autistic people!
Don’t get me wrong, I have non-autistic friends and they are lovely people. But this article helps to explain something that I’ve been noticing for some months. That when autistic people are together in a friendship group, they actually appear ‘normal’, because when you’re spending time with and talking with people who’s brains work the same way as yours, it is normal! I get such an enormous sense of validation from speaking with my autistic friends, I finally have social mirrors, it’s not ‘just’ me!

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  • Slightly contradicting this, I don't feel I'm on the same wavelength with an autistic friend of mine. When I talk to her online, everything is fine. However, when I talk to her in person, the conversation is very one-sided and is all about her. But maybe I don't feel on the same wavelength as her because I have (suspected) 'mild' autism, whereas perhaps she is more autistic than me

    I hope this doesn't offend anyone

  • in reply to Mytwenty

    No offence taken! I think perhaps I have a few autistic friends that I am close to where I feel that I am tuned into and on the same wavelength as them. I’m not saying that it will happen with every autistic person because it won’t but what I am saying is that the likelihood of it happening with another autistic person is greater than with another autistic person, simply because our brains are wired the same way.

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  • in reply to Mytwenty

    No offence taken! I think perhaps I have a few autistic friends that I am close to where I feel that I am tuned into and on the same wavelength as them. I’m not saying that it will happen with every autistic person because it won’t but what I am saying is that the likelihood of it happening with another autistic person is greater than with another autistic person, simply because our brains are wired the same way.

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