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How to socialise?

Ubiquitously Insane

I've been reluctant to post for a while now but I can't find the answers I'm looking for anywhere else so I'm hoping somebody may be able to suggest something.

A bit of a backstory, I'm a 25yo girl from Cheshire, recently diagnosed ASD. I've had an array of mental health problems since I was very young which I've now realised came hand-in-hand with ASD. I always struggled to socialise and throughout my teenage years used alcohol to help me overcome this, however last year I had to give it up and I found out I was pregnant and now I'm really struggling to adjust to not having that coping mechanism. Because of my 'issues' throughout the years I've never maintained any real friendships and I'm struggling to access any support since my diagnosis as there doesn't seem to be much out there besides groups which are a big no no for me.

It's only starting to bother me as I'm stuck inside pretty much seven days a week with the acception of when I visit my nan, and the longer it's going on for the more shut off from the world I feel. Also, it isn't fair on my 9mo son. This is causing issues between me and my OH too as my meltdowns are becoming more frequent. I'm just at a loss and would appreciate any advice anybody could offer.

Thankyou. 

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  • alcohol is the worst thing - avoid it at all cost.  

    try to get into nature i mean forests, beaches, mountains, parks, lakes. Use google  satellite view to locate forests nearby especially small ones, look at them in street view to locate tracks into them and then visit them. simply walk into them. U wont regret it.

    Take your son with you in a baby carrier it will be good for him as well.  let ur OH know where u have gone. Visit random barely known forests the harder the access the better.

    once in the forest sit down ( on a plastic bag if it is wet  ) and look up through the tree canopy. Listen to the wind in the branches listen to the birds, kneel down and smell the moss and soil. Feel and smell the grass, flowers, twigs, cones, bark, ever detail u can. Sit there and eat a sandwich slowly as if a fox is watching you, because there probably is, if it is tuna :)

    visit nature once a week try some small hikes. just u and ur son.

    u will gradually change because  nature is full of positive inherent ancient human triggers and you are a human.

    give it a go.

    U wont regret it.

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  • alcohol is the worst thing - avoid it at all cost.  

    try to get into nature i mean forests, beaches, mountains, parks, lakes. Use google  satellite view to locate forests nearby especially small ones, look at them in street view to locate tracks into them and then visit them. simply walk into them. U wont regret it.

    Take your son with you in a baby carrier it will be good for him as well.  let ur OH know where u have gone. Visit random barely known forests the harder the access the better.

    once in the forest sit down ( on a plastic bag if it is wet  ) and look up through the tree canopy. Listen to the wind in the branches listen to the birds, kneel down and smell the moss and soil. Feel and smell the grass, flowers, twigs, cones, bark, ever detail u can. Sit there and eat a sandwich slowly as if a fox is watching you, because there probably is, if it is tuna :)

    visit nature once a week try some small hikes. just u and ur son.

    u will gradually change because  nature is full of positive inherent ancient human triggers and you are a human.

    give it a go.

    U wont regret it.

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  • in reply to aidie

    I agree with Aidie, getting out in nature is great, especially with a litlun. I take my youngest daughter (also Autistic) to the Nature Reserve at least once a week, sometimes we go to a tots group and sometimes we just go for a wander, charting previously unseen territory Slight smile Local woods are also a fabulous place to take young ones for a stroll, even in a pushchair they can enjoy the fresh air and looking up through the trees while you walk, my youngest has had many a woodland nap! Getting out in the country side and fresh air should make you feel more energised too!