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How to socialise?

Ubiquitously Insane

I've been reluctant to post for a while now but I can't find the answers I'm looking for anywhere else so I'm hoping somebody may be able to suggest something.

A bit of a backstory, I'm a 25yo girl from Cheshire, recently diagnosed ASD. I've had an array of mental health problems since I was very young which I've now realised came hand-in-hand with ASD. I always struggled to socialise and throughout my teenage years used alcohol to help me overcome this, however last year I had to give it up and I found out I was pregnant and now I'm really struggling to adjust to not having that coping mechanism. Because of my 'issues' throughout the years I've never maintained any real friendships and I'm struggling to access any support since my diagnosis as there doesn't seem to be much out there besides groups which are a big no no for me.

It's only starting to bother me as I'm stuck inside pretty much seven days a week with the acception of when I visit my nan, and the longer it's going on for the more shut off from the world I feel. Also, it isn't fair on my 9mo son. This is causing issues between me and my OH too as my meltdowns are becoming more frequent. I'm just at a loss and would appreciate any advice anybody could offer.

Thankyou. 

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  • Hi - do you have any hobbies or interests that can be the basis for meeting others?    There's a website called Meetup.com where other people arrange social stuff - it's worth looking on there to see if there's anything interesting in your area.      I go along to lunches, coffee meets, bowling, pub evenings etc.    All you do is join the groups and sign up/wander along to the meetups - the fact these people are motivated enough to arrange meetings means they're normally very welcoming people.    There's no commitment so if you don't like or don't fit one group, try another.

    Some of the local ones around here are things like book clubs, pub-quiz teams, cafe-meets, Sunday lunch groups, fitness walking etc. - see what you think.

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  • Hi - do you have any hobbies or interests that can be the basis for meeting others?    There's a website called Meetup.com where other people arrange social stuff - it's worth looking on there to see if there's anything interesting in your area.      I go along to lunches, coffee meets, bowling, pub evenings etc.    All you do is join the groups and sign up/wander along to the meetups - the fact these people are motivated enough to arrange meetings means they're normally very welcoming people.    There's no commitment so if you don't like or don't fit one group, try another.

    Some of the local ones around here are things like book clubs, pub-quiz teams, cafe-meets, Sunday lunch groups, fitness walking etc. - see what you think.

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