Published on 12, July, 2020
I’ve just joined this community because my partner and I are working through living life with his diagnoses ASD. I have trouble approaching him for sex because I’m worried that because he becomes fixated on the one thing he is doing at the time that he will end up becoming anxious if I spontaneously approach him for sex and he will end up having a meltdown and i can’t help but sometimes feel hurt even though I fully support and understand him. Does anyone have any tips? I’m also very shy so have trouble being direct about what I want when it comes to these situations and know he needs direct speech to understand.
Have you had situations with him in the past that have gone badly that make you worry like this? I'm an ASD-diagnosed man, and my wife has been referred for diagnosis too. We both score highly for alexithymia too.
Not to do with sex, but this has been the case if he is busy on a Game, reading, if something goes wrong and He gets thrown off etc so it gives me anxiety to even try with some things. That’s interesting, What is alexithymia?
Yes I can relate to that a bit.
Alexithymia is a reduced ability to "feel" emotions, or be able to work out what emotions you're having when you notice sensations in your body. Basically being able to notice, identify and explain feelings. So it doesn't help with sex life as it cuts off the emotional angles.
Amazingly I've never googled "sex and alexithymia" but it sounds like it would be a good thing to look into!