Approaching my partner for sex

I’ve just joined this community because my partner and I are working through living life with his diagnoses ASD. I have trouble approaching him for sex because I’m worried that because he becomes fixated on the one thing he is doing at the time that he will end up becoming anxious if I spontaneously approach him for sex and he will end up having a meltdown and i can’t help but sometimes feel hurt even though I fully support and understand him. Does anyone have any tips? I’m also very shy so have trouble being direct about what I want when it comes to these situations and know he needs direct speech to understand. 

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  • Very personal subject and we are all different. Each side has their own take on matters

    As an autistic person I do like things to be predictable routines, so that is what I favoured, with exceptions well advised in advance. Not sounding at all spontaneous

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  • Very personal subject and we are all different. Each side has their own take on matters

    As an autistic person I do like things to be predictable routines, so that is what I favoured, with exceptions well advised in advance. Not sounding at all spontaneous

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