Published on 12, July, 2020
I’ve just joined this community because my partner and I are working through living life with his diagnoses ASD. I have trouble approaching him for sex because I’m worried that because he becomes fixated on the one thing he is doing at the time that he will end up becoming anxious if I spontaneously approach him for sex and he will end up having a meltdown and i can’t help but sometimes feel hurt even though I fully support and understand him. Does anyone have any tips? I’m also very shy so have trouble being direct about what I want when it comes to these situations and know he needs direct speech to understand.
My husband has given up initiating sex with me. I have to be in the right frame of mind so he leaves it up to me to plan and initiate. Sex is such an overwhelming physical sensory experience I find it so hard. It takes a massive amount of brain power to overcome the heightened senses and feelings that occur during it.
It does help me to get into the mood if I watch something where people are romantically involved (not pornographic!!) Just normal tv shows where couples do it. It helps my brain see that it's normal and enjoyable. Don't know this would help with your partner.
Oh that's interesting to hear, I think it might be helpful to see if that's how my partner feels. Thanks for your input.