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Robbed of £2.40

Roswell

I get stared at a lot for looking Jewish and Autistic, well today I went in a fish and chip shop, ordered the large chips for £2.40, and the woman who served me then gave me a frown and stared at me for a while, then three men also waiting for food started staring at me. I turned around to look out the window for a minute, at first the others were still talking to one another etc. then everyone went silent, after 10 seconds of the silence, I turned back around, everyone was staring at me, my panic attack had reached its peak, and I walked out.

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  • return to the shop with a neurotypical and see if you can work out want went wrong. I am sure the woman behind the counter may explain what went wrong.  The frown was her surprise at something I dont know what. 

    How do you dress as "looking jewish", do you mean like a Hasidic jew ? just curious. 

  • in reply to aidie

    I actually wasn't dressing Jewish, I just meant I look Jewish, with my skin colour and nose shape.

    I think probably my body language, facial expressions and eye contact came across as weird to the other people in the shop, and that my racial features just make me stick out more in the first place, so it's like a chicken and egg situation. Kind of like I suspect if a woman goes into a shop mostly used by men and looks noticably Autistic, i.e. too much or too little eye contact, stiff body language, she attracts attention both for being a woman in a mostly male shop and also for not looking neurotypical.

    Just my opinion.

  • in reply to Roswell

    Thanks Roswell

    I have stopped cafes in Rome because the locals know you are not local by your clothes, body language, hair, skin,teeth, voice and body language. 10 minutes later everything is ok as long as the local loyal customers are not messed up by a silly tourist like me. 

    I have been thrown out (pushed out ) of a very busy burger joint in south Chicago because I couldnt order quick enough ( i could not speak spanish ). The stressed staff who where working flat out in the entirely Hispanic burger bar hadnt time to deal with me, nor had the queues around me.  I chalked that up to experience to observe more before diving in somewhere when I was tired. 

    now it makes me laugh to think about it :)

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  • in reply to Roswell

    Thanks Roswell

    I have stopped cafes in Rome because the locals know you are not local by your clothes, body language, hair, skin,teeth, voice and body language. 10 minutes later everything is ok as long as the local loyal customers are not messed up by a silly tourist like me. 

    I have been thrown out (pushed out ) of a very busy burger joint in south Chicago because I couldnt order quick enough ( i could not speak spanish ). The stressed staff who where working flat out in the entirely Hispanic burger bar hadnt time to deal with me, nor had the queues around me.  I chalked that up to experience to observe more before diving in somewhere when I was tired. 

    now it makes me laugh to think about it :)

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