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Robbed of £2.40

Roswell

I get stared at a lot for looking Jewish and Autistic, well today I went in a fish and chip shop, ordered the large chips for £2.40, and the woman who served me then gave me a frown and stared at me for a while, then three men also waiting for food started staring at me. I turned around to look out the window for a minute, at first the others were still talking to one another etc. then everyone went silent, after 10 seconds of the silence, I turned back around, everyone was staring at me, my panic attack had reached its peak, and I walked out.

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  • Hi Roswell, I'm really sorry to hear that this happened to you today! I don't understand why people feel the need to stare at you for being Jewish or Autistic, I'd be inclined to stare right back at them, but that's just me! The lady who served you had no reason to frown at you, in fact she 'should' have been polite and reasonably cheerful, that would be good customer service and by being there and buying chips you were contributing to the profit of the fish and chip shop so she shouldn't be scaring off customers by frowning at them! The 3 men also waiting should have minded their own business and continued their own conversation between themselves. How are you feeling now?

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  • Hi Roswell, I'm really sorry to hear that this happened to you today! I don't understand why people feel the need to stare at you for being Jewish or Autistic, I'd be inclined to stare right back at them, but that's just me! The lady who served you had no reason to frown at you, in fact she 'should' have been polite and reasonably cheerful, that would be good customer service and by being there and buying chips you were contributing to the profit of the fish and chip shop so she shouldn't be scaring off customers by frowning at them! The 3 men also waiting should have minded their own business and continued their own conversation between themselves. How are you feeling now?

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  • in reply to Kitsune

    Hi thanks for your kind reply. I feel okay now. I went back home and had a sleep. 

    I find it very trying that people stare at me in situations like supermarkets and takeaways. I believe due to my body language, facial expressions or eye contact, all of which I think are Autistic and things I struggle to control. 

    I'm not sure if they're staring at me because of how Autistic I look or because of my Jewish features, i.e. tanned skin tone and a certain shape of nose. Could be wrong but I think it can be a combination of both.

    Sometimes I think people have this stereotype of a man with tanned skin as being either a) gay, b) some reality TV-style airhead. Both these people may stereotypically be viewed as great fun to talk to, so perhaps it's that, that makes people look? Thinking I must be the most amusing person in the room?