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Might As Well Not Talk

Mytwenty

Hi

I am going through the diagnosis process, and have become increasingly conscious of my bad social skills, which people close to me have admitted are not great. Maybe it's pride, but what's the point in talking at all if I'm going to embarrass myself?

  • in reply to aidie

    Thanks for your message I am sorry if I have not done something right, I will try to find out how to do what you have suggested I do.

    Thanks again

    Helena

  • in reply to Mytwenty

    awesome :)    is that ur painting ?

  • in reply to Fluffy

    Thank you, you are right - I should focus on the people who support me. No this was definitely helpful, thank you a lot for this!

  • in reply to aidie

    I'm updating my profile right now. Thanks, I'm looking forward to being a part of this site. I'll take some paper with bullet points to my assessment, and of course I will mention what they have said about my social skills. Yeah, I'm very blessed by my friends and family. I'm thinking of keeping my diagnosis on a need to know basis.

  • in reply to Fluffy

    helen please update your profile to a nice picture something that has meaning to you and change NAS63836 tio a name of your choice --- u're far too precious to be a random number

  • in reply to Mytwenty

    fill in your profile, so we get to know you better. enjoy your time here. We will help you through the process until you get a diagnosis. the more you say at your diagnosis the better. there is nothing wrong with being socially a bit rough. i am like that. the part that is really positive is

    Mytwenty said:
    which people close to me have admitted are not great.

    it shows they are concerned  and understand u are a good person inside. mention this quote in your diagnosis. these people are real gold. tell them when get diagnosed as they will help you even more.

  • I am sorry you are having difficulty in talking and worry about what you are saying. Don't be to hard on yourself, stick with the ones that are supporting  and want to help you during difficult times and you will always be able to speak with people on this forum who will give you empathy. I have problems with some people that don't like me speaking about my Spectrum, and say I will loose friends if I do.. I did loose one friend but that was because they felt they could not take me speaking about my Spectrum. I think it is good to speak about it because it helps us learn more about our condition or conditions. I now just speak with those friends who are true patient and understanding of me. You can speak about anything on this Forum I find and people will listen an will give help and advice if they can do so. Most of all we give real empathy on this site. Don't know if I have been any help or support atall here but I want you to know I care. Helenaa

  • in reply to Mytwenty

    The informal diagnosis sounds like a positive step Slight smile You're welcome.

  • in reply to DuckBread

    I'm six months into a fifteen month waiting list. That said, I'm seeing a psychiatrist for my MH and he says he can unofficially, informally diagnose me. I see him next in October, so hopefully I'll get a diagnosis of sorts then.

    Thank you for this - it's all encouraging, good stuff!

  • What stage are you at in the diagnosis process? I've been on the waiting list for 10 months now - it feels like forever. 

    It sounds like you're being way too hard on yourself. Don't get me wrong, I often cringe at things I've said and I always over-analyse conversations I've had, but these things feel much worse in our heads than they do to other people. I'll go away from a conversation and spend ages thinking of all the things I should/shouldn't have said, but the other person/people involved probably never give it a second thought.

    We all deserve to talk and be listened to. The people who care about you will overlook the socially awkward quirks; try not to concern yourself with people who are too narrow-minded to understand.