New diagnosis- starting to get a bit wound up

That's very much what I've gone through in the last few years. For me there have been some intense negative/painful emotions at times, but mostly I did feel good about gaining a better understanding of my interactions with people & who I am. But at the same time it was painful to realise how little I had understood before. Now even how little I still have! 

Of course, it seems unreal at times, because I haven't talked about it a lot. People close to me felt I was relentlessly talking about it and nothing else so I realised I had to just stop. I was really grappling with how to assimilate the info in the first year. I'm 43, btw.

People around me think the same..... but i have 37 years to try and untangle and create sense out of! Until I work out the answers I can't rest (the same applies to every aspect of my life).

I find it amusing that up until recently people tried to get me to talk about how I am feeling, which I find super tricky because I can't generalise emotions very well in order to communicate verbally about them. Now I think they want me to talk less? It's difficult because I really need others opinions about things because I am confused as to which of my perceptions/responses are generic human perceptions/responses and which are influenced by my autism.

For example I recently learnt that when people develop trust in each other they generalise their trust in people to every aspect of their being and interacting. I don't do this... I trust people based on repeated experience that allows me to relatively successfully predict how someone is going to react or behave in a very specific context. The trust that I have for that person in a given context doesn't imply I trust them with other things that I have no experience of them doing. I find people get offended by this, but it just seems logical to me that this is what you should do.

I also don't get why other people don't find difference in perception intensely fascinating and prefer to talk about things that I find completely pointless?

I am lucky to have a small number of people in my life that have the patience to explore our perceptions together. I find it is best to explore one aspect in a shorter conversation with a few different people at different times so people don't find it as difficult. 

People around me think the same..... but i have 37 years to try and untangle and create sense out of! Until I work out the answers I can't rest (the same applies to every aspect of my life).

I find it amusing that up until recently people tried to get me to talk about how I am feeling, which I find super tricky because I can't generalise emotions very well in order to communicate verbally about them. Now I think they want me to talk less? It's difficult because I really need others opinions about things because I am confused as to which of my perceptions/responses are generic human perceptions/responses and which are influenced by my autism.

For example I recently learnt that when people develop trust in each other they generalise their trust in people to every aspect of their being and interacting. I don't do this... I trust people based on repeated experience that allows me to relatively successfully predict how someone is going to react or behave in a very specific context. The trust that I have for that person in a given context doesn't imply I trust them with other things that I have no experience of them doing. I find people get offended by this, but it just seems logical to me that this is what you should do.

I also don't get why other people don't find difference in perception intensely fascinating and prefer to talk about things that I find completely pointless?

I am lucky to have a small number of people in my life that have the patience to explore our perceptions together. I find it is best to explore one aspect in a shorter conversation with a few different people at different times so people don't find it as difficult.