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Upset At The Checkout

LucyLandRover

Hello,

I had a upsetting incident at the local supermarket last week and would like some advice. I was in the que and the store was busy so I had a lot to contend with when a lady brushed past with her trolley and patted me on the shoulder. I can not stand being  touched by strangers and this made me shudder. I was unaware I was in her way and suggested that excuse me was a polite way of moving me to which her reply was quite abusive and I was accussed of being rude and nasty, both of which are simply not me. I wonder what else I could have done? I would prefer to get along with people but find it hard when confronted with such situations and not knowing how to react.  I have had similar expereinces which involve strangers patting me. Does anyone else experience this?

Thank you.

Nick

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  • I recognise this, yes - but I also recognise that I'm a complete and utter hypocrite about it!

    The supermarket is a hugely overwhelming sensory experience for me, which makes it hard enough, and like you, people with no apparent awareness of personal space, oblivious to creating an obvious obstruction, or who snarl back when you make a perfectly polite request really annoy me. The trouble is that this annoyance combined with the sensory assault turns me into a bit of scowling, snappy, misanthrope myself! I've got myself in trouble once or twice when my running commentary on what a bunch of jerks people are started to be spoken out loud rather than in my head (I often don't notice when I switch over.) I'm also incredibly good at getting in people's way - usually because I zone-out now and then from the stress, or get stuck in a loop of procrastination if the product I wanted isn't available.

    Comments about my (usual) politeness have ranged from people thinking I'm a bit too formal, through to somewhat stunned appreciation. In either case, it always saddens me a bit that it should be considered remarkable at all.

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  • I recognise this, yes - but I also recognise that I'm a complete and utter hypocrite about it!

    The supermarket is a hugely overwhelming sensory experience for me, which makes it hard enough, and like you, people with no apparent awareness of personal space, oblivious to creating an obvious obstruction, or who snarl back when you make a perfectly polite request really annoy me. The trouble is that this annoyance combined with the sensory assault turns me into a bit of scowling, snappy, misanthrope myself! I've got myself in trouble once or twice when my running commentary on what a bunch of jerks people are started to be spoken out loud rather than in my head (I often don't notice when I switch over.) I'm also incredibly good at getting in people's way - usually because I zone-out now and then from the stress, or get stuck in a loop of procrastination if the product I wanted isn't available.

    Comments about my (usual) politeness have ranged from people thinking I'm a bit too formal, through to somewhat stunned appreciation. In either case, it always saddens me a bit that it should be considered remarkable at all.

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