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Feeling really down had enough

NAS63716

Having terrible day where everything goes wrong

New to the forum, left my full time job in May, was put in to position I was certain I would not survive so had to go. With the industry the way it is I don't have any chance to get back in when I am feeling better.

Had enough of life, can't discuss it as everyone just passes you on the samaritans, really no point waisting time trying to discuss it with people

When I left work I have a sizable lump sum of cash, I am renting struggled to meet that in my job, so that's the pressing problem. I can't afford to buy anywhere south where I am happy to live, but can buy a few up north

spent tons of time searching for the right place, I found one on Monday that had only been on Market for a few days, arranged a viewing on wednesday they had lots of interest. coming round to Tuesday / Wednesday morning, my anxiety and stress just got too much. I don't feel I could cope with the 5 hour plus drive, for a 30 minute viewing. Not sure how I could expect myself to be in a position to reliabily consider making the offer So I didn't go, on the hope the property would still be available next week and I could plan the journey step by step to work with my stress and anxiety

House sold today and I'm gutted and feel awful about myself not being able to go up there on Wednesday Now back to square one, it's taken four months so far. I need to move quickly now, I can't keep going on like this.

I have a bit of an addiction with shopping which is worse now I have left work. Trying to get a grip with things, but it just keeps stumbling along. Get all the hassle of things arriving damaged, poor condition, or with some problems. Sorting out this hassle returning things and communicating takes most of my time

I need to get out of renting, not too far down the road, I will be homeless. Council support doesn't cover 1 bed or studio place being a single male

A lot of the time I feel invisible or not existant in public

I rarely go out and find it very difficult

I just want to get a comfortable place of my own and shut the whole rotten world out

I returned something on ebay, and asked them to re-issue the voucher. You have to go through different departments then it gets checked and investigated. To my horror I found out eBay issued a new promotion which lasts til tuesday. No doubt I will get an email, oh we've re-issued it, and it will be new promotion which is vastly different. That's £100 down the drain, when I have not got any income

Anything I try and do just gets trashed and thrown back at me in this sick world

I should have support from mental health nurse, it's impossible to speak to her she just comes back with the most obvious and simple things which you have already done, or will just simply fall down because situation is not as simple and she is mapping out. My weekly support worker is off sick, will be retiring in near future. I can't speak with my GP because you have go through duty doctor who has different opinion and you end up more anxious, stressed, depressed

What do you do when life just keeps kicking you down when you try and pick yourself up, I feel everything will fail, and it does

  • I am very sorry to read how badly things are going for you. You need to take a minute, stand back, and try to look at your situation in a new light.

    By the way, have you heard about the link between autism and CFS?

  • Hi, I’m sorry to hear that you’re having such a tough time. I know you say that you can’t speak with your GP/Duty Doctor but I think that might be your best bet. Then you could see if they can do something to help with your anxiety/stress/low mood. Maybe make a list of points you wish to discuss with them before you go to the appointment so that if you get too anxious to get your words together then you could just hand them the list to read. 

  • in reply to NAS63716

    Hello NAS; I'm new here so please forgive me if I say or do something I shouldn't, as this is my very first post on this Forum. I was drawn to your thread as My Family Member ( late diagnosed Aspbergers Syndrome ) is also feeling low in mood for reasons as yet unknown, but I have some suggestions I would like to share with you if I may as there's little I can do for MFM just now.

    I am wondering if you may have the grounds to take your old bosses to an industrial tribunal because it looks like you might qualify for a legal case against them, for Constructive Dismissal. If you were in a Trade Union at work you should contact them, but definitely go to the Citizens Advice Bureau as soon as possible as they can offer help with applying for Benefits, tell you your rights about Housing, any other help you may have in your local area, & also your chances of suing your employer. They could reassure you over the changes to terms & conditions by eBay etc too.

    Good Luck, & I really do hope your spirits lift very soon.

  • in reply to NAS63716

    That's understandable. Rather than moving in with someone, maybe you could ask somebody to help you with house viewings instead? That way, if you're having a challenging day, you don't need to worry about driving yourself there. 

    I'm sure things will improve for you. Just try and take it all one step at a time. It might be worth uploading your CV to a job site (e.g. Reed) so that employers might find you while you're focusing on houses.

    Take care of yourself.

  • Things have been gradually getting worse, getting more down with stuff I have missed buying. Spend all day searching for things, wading through all the duff stuff so is dis heartening when I have missed a few really great things that popped up on eBay and Gumtree by minutes. I had a driving experience booked on Saturday, drove a long way, first time out in a couple of months. They made a screw up with the booking, so I just said I was feeling really bad anyway and would re-book it for another time. I just feel in this massive numb haze

  • in reply to DuckBread

    I find with my aspergers and having lived on my own since early adulthood, it is too much for me to live in someone else's presence. If it was to build a long term relationship, I would try and get over it, it the knowledge that the bad will balance out with good after time. Just being so low at the moment, I just don't have the capacity to do that

  • Sorry to hear you're going through a tough time. Is there anyone you could move in with temporarily (e.g. a close family member) while you're searching for a house? It sounds like you'd benefit from having someone there to help you through it.