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Buddylove

Hi I'm 30 and had a terrible dating history. 

I'd like to have a relationship with someone then I wonder who would really truly understand my quirks and social awkwardness. I'm not grate with small talk so dating apps are crap for me as I can never do that beginning bit. 

When I've been in a relationship they don't understand why I don't want to go to the pub with them and friends but would rather choose a quiet night in or a night drive where its all quite. So hard to explain the sensory issues and even harder to explain the social issues I encounter I have learnt to mimic people in these situations but doing it at work is so mentally tiring I don't want to go through it all again in my down time.

Am I the only person who feels like this?

How am I meant to have a so called 'normal' relationship with someone? 

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  • I've mentioned this many times before but 1:1 dating is very hard - way too much pressure to perform - and everything to lose if you screw up.

    It's worth joining Meetup.com to get yourself out socially where you can practice your social game until you feel you're getting more comfortable with the small talk.

    It's NOT a dating site, but you'll get to meet lots of people at group events like coffee meets, cinema, pubs, bowling etc. and you might find a group near you that you really enjoy.    The more people you meet, the more your personality can shine out and there's a chance you could meet someone at an event that you click with - and as they already know you, the awkward ice-braking has already happened - it makes any future dates much less stress.

    You haver to remember, you're not the only one worried about relationships - everyone else is in the same boat - but maybe better at hiding it.

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  • I've mentioned this many times before but 1:1 dating is very hard - way too much pressure to perform - and everything to lose if you screw up.

    It's worth joining Meetup.com to get yourself out socially where you can practice your social game until you feel you're getting more comfortable with the small talk.

    It's NOT a dating site, but you'll get to meet lots of people at group events like coffee meets, cinema, pubs, bowling etc. and you might find a group near you that you really enjoy.    The more people you meet, the more your personality can shine out and there's a chance you could meet someone at an event that you click with - and as they already know you, the awkward ice-braking has already happened - it makes any future dates much less stress.

    You haver to remember, you're not the only one worried about relationships - everyone else is in the same boat - but maybe better at hiding it.

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