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Autism and Adulthood

Ellie

Hi

It's Eleanor. This is only my second post on this site because, frankly, I have no clue how to do... all of this. I'm an autistic adult. I know that when you're an adult, you're introduced to all sorts of new things; maintaining a career, learning how to live on your own, driving, dating, etc. Oh my God, I'm so rubbish at this! Even when I'm typing or writing, I'm not very talkative. I'm also a very private person so it will be a while before I start blabbering about who knows what on here! Anyway, like I said, I'm an adult with Aspergers Syndrome, who has just graduated from uni this year, and right now I'm in a hard phase of my new adult life; finding a job and starting my career. I want to work in Music Education, and I've decided to just start out with jobs as teaching assistant/supply teacher. So far I've had several declines, but I feel like I'm getting closer to a job. It is just a matter of remaining positive and to keep on going.

I'll post more later, but if anyone has any questions or advice for me, whether on finding work, living through adulthood with autism, or anything else please reply and let me know.

Regards

Eleanor

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  • Any advice?

    Basic stuff...

    1. Understand what your areas of difficulty/triggers are e.g. mine big ones are noise sensitivity and dealing with illogical thinking in others

    2. Understand what your thresholds are - how much of (1) can you take in a 'sitting'?

    3. Understand what your 'decompression strategies' are - music, exercise, just being alone etc. whatever you do that undoes the everyday stresses of coping with the NT world

    4. Understand you are not alone and you are OK the way you are. There are always voices here ready to speak on issues big and small, to celebrate  or commiserate with you.

    OP

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    Thank you for the helpful tips! In terms of your threshold tip i.e. 'how much can I take in a 'sitting'? Honestly I'm not entirely sure. There are times where there are several noises that occur e.g. the dishwasher, the TV, my two brothers squabbling etc. at the same time and I tend to either bear it for an amount of time, or it's just for a minute or two before I find myself retreating to my bedroom. I guess I'll have to test myself and see what happens. As for decompression strategies, I do have a few, i.e. listening to music, long walks, and just recently, listening to audiobooks, but it always seems like I do it at the right time. Honestly, I do try to set myself a regular routine, but I can never tend to stick to it. Has anyone else had that problem? If so, let me know xx

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  • in reply to Original Prankster

    Thank you for the helpful tips! In terms of your threshold tip i.e. 'how much can I take in a 'sitting'? Honestly I'm not entirely sure. There are times where there are several noises that occur e.g. the dishwasher, the TV, my two brothers squabbling etc. at the same time and I tend to either bear it for an amount of time, or it's just for a minute or two before I find myself retreating to my bedroom. I guess I'll have to test myself and see what happens. As for decompression strategies, I do have a few, i.e. listening to music, long walks, and just recently, listening to audiobooks, but it always seems like I do it at the right time. Honestly, I do try to set myself a regular routine, but I can never tend to stick to it. Has anyone else had that problem? If so, let me know xx

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