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Exposure Anxiety: How complex are your social masks?

Kit McDaydream

How complex are your social masks?  is it just you with a bit more (pretended) confidence to cope with a day at college or work?  or do you have complete alters that deal with particular things and are completely different to the 'real you', even though they're using your body to go to your college/workplace in? (so work colleagues etc would see the personality the alter portrayed as 'your personality')

Can you be 'you' in front of anyone at all or is your exposure anxiety so severe you can only be yourself in the house alone when no-one else is there? (other than pets maybe).

K

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  • I mask like crazy - I provide the user interface of a very bright, enthusiastic, helpful, jolly nice chap.    I suspect that NTs see this as someone they can use - they judge me to be inferior - less of an Alpha.    This gets me accepted very easily at face value.    Once in, I can hide quite well until the chaos, contradictions, lies and general BS confuse me so much that I can't function.     I'm lucky that in most jobs I've worked alone so my interactions with everyone were limited.

    Under close scrutiny, I can't keep it up - and then my annoying superpower or reflecting people's true nature back on themselves causes difficulties.    No-one likes to see what a horrible person they are.

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  • I mask like crazy - I provide the user interface of a very bright, enthusiastic, helpful, jolly nice chap.    I suspect that NTs see this as someone they can use - they judge me to be inferior - less of an Alpha.    This gets me accepted very easily at face value.    Once in, I can hide quite well until the chaos, contradictions, lies and general BS confuse me so much that I can't function.     I'm lucky that in most jobs I've worked alone so my interactions with everyone were limited.

    Under close scrutiny, I can't keep it up - and then my annoying superpower or reflecting people's true nature back on themselves causes difficulties.    No-one likes to see what a horrible person they are.

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