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Would love to connect with someone experienced in the challenges of Asperger's in relationships.

Pepperpocket

I love my partner (m, 41, undiagnosed Aspergers) so so much but when it comes to some of our relationship issues I can't work out if some things are "all in my head", whether some things are simply autistic traits I must adapt to or if I'm using autism to justify how he treats me & defend the relationship because I want it to work. I can't do this forever, it's driving me insane. It's something I feel like we should discuss and perhaps even get couples therapy, but at this moment in time he's not even interested in a diagnosis because he doesn't see any problems. 

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  • I understand your frustration. Your Amazing and it sounds like you really love your partner and are doing everything you can. I’ve had the same issues with my husband. The last 2 months he would have severe meltdowns, yelling name calling, extreme anger because my son has Aspergers and his grandfather and one day it was like a light bulb moment when I realized the communication, social cues, anger outbursts during every conversation was because I was almost positive he was on the spectrum too. Last week he came to me and said everything you tell is the same thing people tell me at work, so Yes maybe I am on the spectrum. 
    The hardest part right now is finding an AVAILABLE counselor that understands BOTH our brains! I adore my husband but yes the communication and social cues can make you go insane! Now that my son is almost 12 I’ve noticed his issues getting worse because dad has not had behavioral therapy yet. I do know on an encouraging note, your not alone and we can Journey towards Hope together because the love of our life’s are worth fighting for because all their Beautiful strengths far outweigh the other as difficult as some days are for us! 
    Blessings to you 

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  • I understand your frustration. Your Amazing and it sounds like you really love your partner and are doing everything you can. I’ve had the same issues with my husband. The last 2 months he would have severe meltdowns, yelling name calling, extreme anger because my son has Aspergers and his grandfather and one day it was like a light bulb moment when I realized the communication, social cues, anger outbursts during every conversation was because I was almost positive he was on the spectrum too. Last week he came to me and said everything you tell is the same thing people tell me at work, so Yes maybe I am on the spectrum. 
    The hardest part right now is finding an AVAILABLE counselor that understands BOTH our brains! I adore my husband but yes the communication and social cues can make you go insane! Now that my son is almost 12 I’ve noticed his issues getting worse because dad has not had behavioral therapy yet. I do know on an encouraging note, your not alone and we can Journey towards Hope together because the love of our life’s are worth fighting for because all their Beautiful strengths far outweigh the other as difficult as some days are for us! 
    Blessings to you 

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