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Fantasy worlds in my head

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I've read that something common amongst those with AS is creating fantasies as this is better than real life.  On reflection I think I've always done this. I have a very wild, private imagination. It's only recently I have realised how and why I think about these things might be AS related. I don't really want to go into details about the current one, but a common theme seems to be that i find someone attractive and (usually when going to sleep) I make up stories in my head about us being together. Is this my way of dealing with situations? I've been with my partner a long time and have no intention of doing anything untoward. However, Ive had these fantasy worlds from a young age and I'm wondering if it's my way of negotiating the world as I used to (and still do) find attraction / relationships awkward. I've no idea what to say or how to flirt but in my fantasy world I can.  Similarly if I've had some beef with one of my friends, I will make up stories in my head of how I would react or what i or they would say, rather than dealing with the actual situation.

Sometimes these fantasy scenarios have influenced how I feel in real life when really, the situation has all been made up in my head but it spills over into the real world and has affected my feelings towards others.

Can anyone relate to this?

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  • I absolutely relate to this 100% and I'm glad you posted this! Makes me feel less weird! This usually happens when I'm driving home from work, I start imaging things so vividly that I drive on auto pilot and times flies by. (Just like to point out that I'm not a risk at the wheel - I'm a safe driver!). I'm usually very socially able and it's normally about some emergency situation that I'm able to deal with and emerge as a 'hero'. In reality I'd flake and become overwhelmed by the situation more than likely and let somebody else handle it. Sometimes it involves real situations that become exaggerated and then do spill out into the real world and other times it's strangers. 

    On my drive home last night it was handling road rage. I saw a bloke from the car behind in traffic get out of his car and shout at somebody (he didn't approach them, he just stood at his door shouting - not sure what about). My brain then took me away on an adventure how I would go over and magically calm the situation. I'd come up with clever things to say to both of them and they'd be so understanding and grateful for my input.... lol... 

    Like you, I've done this my whole life. When I was a teenager these thoughts always used to be about painful break ups with my girlfriend at the time. Why would I do that to myself?! 

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  • I absolutely relate to this 100% and I'm glad you posted this! Makes me feel less weird! This usually happens when I'm driving home from work, I start imaging things so vividly that I drive on auto pilot and times flies by. (Just like to point out that I'm not a risk at the wheel - I'm a safe driver!). I'm usually very socially able and it's normally about some emergency situation that I'm able to deal with and emerge as a 'hero'. In reality I'd flake and become overwhelmed by the situation more than likely and let somebody else handle it. Sometimes it involves real situations that become exaggerated and then do spill out into the real world and other times it's strangers. 

    On my drive home last night it was handling road rage. I saw a bloke from the car behind in traffic get out of his car and shout at somebody (he didn't approach them, he just stood at his door shouting - not sure what about). My brain then took me away on an adventure how I would go over and magically calm the situation. I'd come up with clever things to say to both of them and they'd be so understanding and grateful for my input.... lol... 

    Like you, I've done this my whole life. When I was a teenager these thoughts always used to be about painful break ups with my girlfriend at the time. Why would I do that to myself?! 

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