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Work politics

raspberry

Long story short, at work we have a social fund which is apparently compulsory to pay into every year but which I don't because I resent contributing to presents to people I don't even work with (we are spread across two sites). If I like someone enough to buy a leaving gift then I will. This week the head asked for my contribution which I gave today as two people I've worked closely with are leaving at the end of the year; I didn't pay for full amount of £15 but gave a £10 to show goodwill. I don't expect or want anything when I leave. I recieved a rather direct email thanking me for my £10 and, although I feel I did the right thing by my values, have obviously annoyed the head. I am normally NOT one to disagree and am usually afraid of voicing my own opinion for fear of disagreement. I am usually very nice and compliant :)   

My NT family agree that I haven't done anything wrong but, of course, I am worrying because I didn't do what was expected of me and worry how I will now be viewed.

Does anyone else struggle with work politics such as this :(

  • There is something like that at my work (about 70 employees at the site), most of whom I don't know. I have avoided it but donate when for example someone in my part of the building (about fifteen people) leaves etc. I have also avoided the secret Santa as sometimes people receive "weird" presents, which some people might find funny but others might find a bit embarassing.  I don't fancy opening a parcel in front of other people if the gift was embarassing.

  • Yes, the politics, cliques, sucking up to management, kicking down and treading over those perceived lower than you.  What is pointed further is the fact that others get cards/collections for their birthdays yet never for me.  

    I struggle to want to actually sign any cards for Birthday, Christmas, Marriage, Birth or Leaving because of how the bullying damagement treat me.

    Like you, Raspberry, I just want to leave my current employer, when I am ready, without any fuss - head off into the sunset like at the end of a western.

  • I hate this kind of stuff! Part of the reason why I'm changing jobs to work from home again. I shouldn't feel 'forced' into giving a fiver because it's 'so-and-sos' birthday. I have never got any of my friends anything for their birthdays before why should I be forced to contribute at work? People are so fake it's unbelievable. It should always be a choice. 

    It's like tea and coffee... oh my days don't get me started on that... I refused to put into the 'tea kitty' because I only drink coffee. Valid and logical! I'm not tight with this at all though, I buy large jars of coffee and don't mind people using it. I just think these almost 'direct debit' type transactions should do one!

    Don't feel bad! You're the smart one - the rest are just complying with expected behaviours! They're all victims of their own social personas.

  • in reply to California

    Thanks, I wonder that too.  It’s more how she will react to me now as I’ve obviously done something wrong when I’m always “the good girl” Grimacing 

  • I have always struggled a lot with these.

    I have never liked these as and I do not expect or want anything.

    I wonder if it could be illegal to push people to participate in things like these?