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My mind is numb

Castle

I don't really know how to put into words right now how I am feeling? as the mind is quite numb and unable to process my thoughts at this moment in time. But I just recently had a diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Condition of the Aspergers type.

I have kind of known after reading up on Aspergers that I may have had it but went through the thought process of days where I would think yes I am 90/10 and others where i would think I am 60/40 or 50/50. I hated the not knowing so I decided with all my mental struggles to get an assesment.

Well now I have been diagnosed all the worrying am I? aren't I? has been settled. I don't think it will sink in until a later date as I need time to digest information. 

Next things I need to think about are do I disclose it or keep it to myself. At the moment I'm thinking I will keep it to myself and only have a quiet word if and when needed.

Finally I just need to thank everyone on this website that has ever taken the time to reply to any of my messages because all the help and advice I ever recieved has been a massive help.

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  • I'm very frustrated because I got my diagnosis and felt like it made sense but my mum has two autistic boys she spent months getting their diagnosis whereas I went to 2 sessions that were 2 hours each long and got my diagnosis after the second one when I got my diagnosis my mum keeps telling me I'm not autistic and havebren missdiagnosed it's really stressing me out because I cannot stop thinking am I autistic or am I not because I don't know if to go forward with it and think ok I get things wrong sometimes because I'm autistic or think actually something else is wrong with me that I don't know and I need to be rediagnosed because my mum said I never showed any of the signs when I was growing up as a kid I don't know what to do right now but I'm really stressed and cannot turn my brain off thinking about this. My mum's opinion is very important to me because she's my mum she's known me since birth so surely my mum is right?

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  • I'm very frustrated because I got my diagnosis and felt like it made sense but my mum has two autistic boys she spent months getting their diagnosis whereas I went to 2 sessions that were 2 hours each long and got my diagnosis after the second one when I got my diagnosis my mum keeps telling me I'm not autistic and havebren missdiagnosed it's really stressing me out because I cannot stop thinking am I autistic or am I not because I don't know if to go forward with it and think ok I get things wrong sometimes because I'm autistic or think actually something else is wrong with me that I don't know and I need to be rediagnosed because my mum said I never showed any of the signs when I was growing up as a kid I don't know what to do right now but I'm really stressed and cannot turn my brain off thinking about this. My mum's opinion is very important to me because she's my mum she's known me since birth so surely my mum is right?

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  • in reply to Cat

    You have a professional diagnosis that you feel fits - you're autistic.

    For parents to say 'but you never showed the signs' i.e. the 'classic' hand flapping, delayed development, no eye-contact etc. is just ignorance.

    As Lagrangian said, share the report, discuss why you being autistic is something she has a problem with, try to work through it. My parents were quite 'anti' my getting a diagnosis 'You're just you' and with my mum I feel it was partly the sense that she felt 'to blame' for:

    a) me being autistic

    b) not spotting it when I was a kid

    But these are flawed ideas based on a lack of understanding of what autism really is, what causes it, how it presents etc.